what's goin on?

[bobbikay]

another problem with my bf. he's usually very VERY sweet to me. he treats me like a princess. but last night, i was talking to his friend/ my friend online (my bf was with him at the time) the conversation went something like this:
him: ur bf says he loves u
me: aww... tell him i love him 2
him: he's coming to pick u up tomorrow
me: ok
him: so how's it goin
me: bored
him: ur bf says ur a dumb b!tch
me: oh haha
him: no seriously
me: y?
him: he's dumping u
me: y?
him: just kidding, just kidding
me: are u really?
him: no, he actually said that
me: y?
him: he thinks ur pregnant
me: y would he think that
him: i don't know
me: o
him: just kidding, just kidding
me: ok im serious, are u kidding or arent u, i have feelings u know
him: i'm not kidding
me: well y 2 minutes ago he says he loves me, and now he's dumping me?
him: i was just kidding about all of that
me: for real?
him: yeah but i gotta go see ya later

i was crying all night. i'm so confused. i thought things were goin great. by the way, what r the chances of getting pregnant when using condoms? because i never got my period this month, just a few brown spots. and i don't know why he would call me a dumb b!tch. i did NOTHING wrong. maybe he was stoned when he was telin his buddy to say this. he doesn't treat me as good when he's high. i just feel like dying, and every little thing makes me cry because i have NO IDEA whats goin on. advice please.

[mrknowall]

How do you know your boyfriend was in the room at the time?
Plus it was his mate(your) mate that said these things(greet mate)not your boy friend
Well he was with his mate probably stoned id talk to him when you see him.
I bet he doesnt remember.
Condoms are only 99% safe.
I would get a check but i think you will be ok
Hope you get it sorted

[sarnieken]

Am probably going to sound like a really old g*t when I say this but it may be time to get someone who doesn't get stoned, especially if he behaves like a d*ck when he's high?
If you're at all uncertain about whether you're pregnant then you can get a check done at your local GP and it will be completely private and no one will find out, it is the law.

It sounds like your / his friend was being a bit of a n*b and you shouldnt take any notice of him. I had a gf once who got her mate to pretend on texts that she was a girl I used to go out with to see if I still had feelings for her. (if that makes sense). She denied it but I had phones numbers to prove it was her. Weird.

If your fella really feels like his mate claims he does then he should have the guts to say it to your face and not through his stoned mate, and certainly not on instant messenger.

Good luck, hope it works out.

[melons]

Hello Bobbikay,

My first little girl came from a split condom! oops! I would get it checked to be on the safe side. if you dont want to go into a shop to get a test go onto www.hibaby.co.uk and they sell them quite cheap. delivered to your door and in a plain brown package with no stickers or anything on them!
i would happen to agree with the others, you dont know if your bf was actually in the room with him. This so called mate could be messing around causing trouble or basically being a idiot. He might fancy you, be jealous you are with his friend and he has got to spend more time on his own! there is a 100 & 1 reasons why he might have done it. Personally keep the messages and confront them and see what is going on. If it is true, speak to your Bf and tell him exactly how he made you feel and explain how upset you were. If he has a couldnt care less attitude then he isnt worth bothering with, you deserve better than to be treated like that and be made to feel that low.
Hope you get it sorted bobbikay! be thinking of you. Melons.

[redcrx]

firstly concentrate on yourself and finding out if youre pregnant. Take a test, if period was different to normal and was just spotting then you really shouldve thought of taking a test by now to rule out pregnancy.

And if thats the way your bf and his friend treat you then i suggest that you have words with him and tell him to buck his ideas up or face being single. From what i recall of your previous posts youre not very old but that behaviour of theirs is very very childish.

[caz247]

for a 17 year old you really make everything a drama when it comes to relationships. is this the same guy from last summer you are seeing. why would HE think you were pregnant before you did a test in the first place.

[melons]

i take it he has messed you about before?
If so why are you putting up with it?

[pitapan]

hey whoever typed that **** is a little punk.
you cant assume that your boyfriend did maybe a friend who happens to be very immature typed that stuff.
find out though and raise hell.
dont put up with that ****

[bobbikay]

thanks for ur answers everyone. i talked to my bf and he said he did tell his friend to say that, but only to see my reaction (he's strange that way). he spent a whole hour apologizing so i know he's sorry. i told him i thought i might be pregnant and i would phone him tonight with the results. well, it just so happens I AM pregnant. he doesn't know yet. i think he'll be supportive, he's excited and scared sh!tless at the same time.

[curlyperm]

how do you know he's excited and scared sh*tless at the same time if he doesnt know your pregnant??
He sounds like a waste of space to me, after reading all about him? but.......what do i know? good luck, you'll probably need it x