marriage

[bina]

i ve been married for a year...lived with him for 3 years....he wasnt the prince charming but now things are getting worst.....we live together but we dont communicate..........he decides on doing things and doesnt even ask me anything????what should i do..cannot leave him......i love him

[ummmm]

You have to talk to him. You have no choice. Or write him a letter but either way if you don't let him know how you feel it will just get worse.

He could be plodding along thinking that everything is fine so it's only fair on him as well that you give him a chance and tell him one way or another how you are feeling.

[Dee Sa]

do something about it now, otherwise it will only get worse.
go and spend a weekend with a girl friend or family see if he misses you, tell him why you are going and you would like him to think about how things are going [ if you are brave enough, some men you just cant get through to].
good luck.

[electricblue]

are u married to my hubby bina??

[unruliejulie]

no, its mine! hold that thought, isnt that MOST men?????? ;-) men and communication, eh, whats that all about, they run a mile rather than talk!

[electricblue]

unless julie,they're busy stuffing their faces wiv dirty sausages,lol

[tradey]

get rid,no only joking sit down with him if he will and tell him how your feeling,theres nothing worse than no communitcation,tell him you would like to make choices and he shouldnt decide all the time,it works both ways,shouldnt be one rule for one and another for you hope you get it sorted men god they can be worse than kids at times

[Miss Inquiry]

Hi Bina, in my experience men often don't realise there is a problem unless they are told. I am often guilty of getting upset about something that Mr Inquiry knows nothing about, dwelling on it and getting more and more upset, when I mention it he is always really good and we discuss it, but until I tell him, he would never have realised their was a problem, us women analyse more than our men, our priorities, values and beliefs are often different. Talk through your feelings with him, it might help if you change your surroundings, maybe go for a pic-nic in the park and talk it through on nuteral territory & somewhere where he can't escape!