My pals annoying

[Lezzelb]

Ive had it with my pal. She knew this guy for years - hadnt seen him in a while then met him one night in November. He was away at sea alot and is based far away. He was married with a kid. They are going through a separation. Since that night in November she has only seen him 4 or 5 times at most and im not talking for days at a time - i mean a couple of hours. They have never gone anywhere for a meal etc. Just plenty of sex at hers, a walk and a quick coffee. He doesnt get in touch a lot saying he has forgotton his phone etc. He even went on holiday with his wife at xmas and the kid and family and never got in touch with her once. So the longer it has gone on, and when he doest get in touch she says "she has thought about it and its a waste of time" etc etc. That she aint taking the crap anymore. The next minute, he gets in touch and hey presto suddenly she is talking to him again. Totally getting fed up of hearing this crap so ive turned the tables and played her along saying "least you have decided to tell him to shove it " etc etc. She never takes me on though and now he was supposted to be here for the weekend with his kid, he is now saying he can only see her for a couple of hours tonight as he doesnt want to leave his kid. Then he leaves again on Sunday to go home. Am i wrong in thinking she is being a mug? She even says she is "seeing him" - i mean - is she hell as like??!

[curlyperm]

Phew!!! well dont really see how it affects your 'friendship'?? Its just that you can see the bigger picture and she cant (love is blind and all that) I'd not get remotely involved in their relationship (or watever it is) she seems happy enough to be treated like a door mat - so let her get on with it? Find some other pals - but be there when the sh*t hits the fan? Simple x

[grumpii]

I think you are right to think she is being taken for a mug but it is her descision and her life. Maybe you should just ask not to hear about that relationship anymore, but you may be needed as a good friend to pick up the pieces when it goes t1ts up.

[joko]

you've 'had it' with her?

none of this is your business, and just because you don't like it, its not your choice to make.

you are her friend, not her owner, boss, parent etc

just let her get on with it, and change the sunject when she talks

[ummmm]

Yes....let her get on with it. If it carries on this way I'm sure she will end up bored but until then....just be a friend.

[409princess]

Dont let it destroy your friendship. To be honest no matter how good two friends are men always get in the way :) I know you can see that he is treating her like dirt but she will have to find out the hard way - its just the way love works, it affects us in strange ways. No doubt if the shoe was on the other foot she would feel the same if you were being treated like this. Just be there for her when it all goes wrong because as outsiders, we know it will !

[Lezzelb]

thanks for all the replies - since i wrote this - guess what? Yes, he dumped her!! Said he wanted her to meet nice guys locally and not have to "wait" on him. Yes is devasted and now Im left to pick up the pieces !! If I got my hands on him i dont think i could be responsible for my actions!! JOY!!