sex after a hysterectomy

[heathersweat]

had a total hysterectomy 9 months ago, ovaries, uterus, and cervix of the womb taken out, due to a large fibroid, apart from the menopausal symptoms,hot sweats, insomnia, memory loss, my sex life has stopped completely, my doctor will not give me h.r.t due to the scare, i am only 52, has one else experienced this and how did they tackle this delicate subject.

[pywackit]

I had total hysterectomy 20 years ago and was only given h.r.t to relieve awfull menopausal symptoms. I took them for over 15 years. However they don't tell you that when you eventualy stop them the symptoms all return.
I think they might have been easier to cope with in my fifties than they were in my sixties.
I can tell you that once everything settles down, at least in my case, even in my sixties, your sex drive returns.
Despite h.r.t, for the first year or more after my hysterectomy I had little or no desire for sex and I suspect that, subconsciously, my body was saying "whoa... we're feeling very delicate in here" You have had realy major surgery. Give youself a chance.
(And when you do, once again, feel desperate for it remember to protect your thinning skin with some moisturiser and use something like a little KY jelly at the time, or you will put yourself off it again)
Good luck the setback is only temporary

[heathersweat]

thanks pwackit, hope more ladies take time out to give me some answersx

[crete]

try a more sympathetic g p . you are only 52.

[ethandron]

you've been thrown straight into surgical menopause, so instead of it creeping up on you, it's hit you with a sledge hammer. if you browse around you'll find lots of forums about menopause (surgical and otherwise) and get lots of help and support from ladies who've either been through, or are going through, very similar things. i actually think it's appaling that you've not been given some help and support with this from your doctor. i'm sorry not to be able to be more helpful to you, but, honestly, you will get loads of advice from the forums i mentioned. good luck.