domestic violance, retraction of my statement

[katno]

Hi, on the 8.12 this year my hubby was arrested for the above on my, i retracted my statment two days later he is still on bail till april this year, looking back on everthing now its a silly argument that got out of hand, we have applied for his bail conditions to be varied but this was declined, ive had a social worker round and been told they dont need to come back, the top line is without my hubby i cant work ( he looked after our son when i was at work, we work opposit shifts ) ime now three months wage down, and could also lose my job, he has a solicitor, i havnt as yet, ye both got very high rate during the argument, the big thing that the police have hung onto is he held a base ball bat to my head threterning to hit me, i actually started the argument and did this to him first, which the police havnt put in my statemnt thts been retracted, the officer said it didnt matter, i didnt have any marks on myself, and we have never had any problems prev, help this is hurting everone, i do understand the DV rules, but cant understand why the CPS want to persue this without myself, my child made the phone call to the ploce then left the house and went to a neighbousr, all i wanted to do when the police called was go and see he was ok, i just signed the statments he wrote it wasnt till i got a copy off my hubbys friend two weeks later i sawe how bad it looked, Help if you can

[jlordy20]

katno,
the police, courts and cps take a very strong view on domestic violence. they have even set up special courts in some places to tackel such an issue. unfortunatly for your sake, the police and cps do not need your concent to persue the case and can put your partner on trial without your say so. this is a good thing although you may not think so. A woman is assaulted on average 30 times before she calls the police, this is something which just shouldnt happen. many women are scared to make any complaint to the police for fear of further violence towards them. Many courts are now setting up systems whereby the offender does not just go to prison, and get out after 3 months. they are infact putting them on programs where thet are on a court order and have many appointments with various organisations to attend. this helps re-habilitate offenders and also means that they cannot simply come out of prison and continue the abuse.
you may on this occasion think that this was only a small spat and was nothing, however if your partner has shown this level of violence towards you, then it will not be the last time it happens, that is a gaurentee. and as a mother you have to ask the question, is this how you wish for your kids to be raised, seeing this sort of thing, and possibly at some point thinking it is ok, and they in turn may do it to there future partners.
your children need to have the best up bringing and need to feel safe at home, not in fear for themselves and ther mother.