did he cheat? men have a read and see what you think

[wleshbeetle]

a few weeks back my boyfriend went on a night out with all the boys, he phoned me later that night and said he has to knock his phone off becuase his battery is going to run out but he will be home about 2, he came home at 2am and went in the shower, he said he went in the shower to freshen himself up for me? then the next day i said to him dont you want to knock your phone off if you have no battery, as obviously his charger was round his house, he said no itll be ok and we didnt get back to his till about 11.30 pm that night, and his battery seeming it was about to go dead lasted all the time, thats 24hrs! do you think somehting dodgy went on? i know hes cheated on his exes but didnt think hed do it to me...

[wleshbeetle]

i havent checked it for ages now, to be honest im scared of what i might see, think ive just answered my question then to do i trust him.........

[teag1rl]

in fairness, on my phone I once put about a million kisses after a message and afterwards everytime I put one it wanted to put loads, so he might not be lying about that predictive thing! now it just always wants to turn a 'x' into xactly! lol

[4getmenot]

has he done anything else. Is there anyone he would be cheating on you with?

[teag1rl]

awww, wlesh. Just ask him straight out tonight and if you're not happy with answer we will all be here for you when you want a good ole b1tch about how stoopid men are x

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah just ask him! Its better you know what a jerk he is now than later on in the relationship how long u been with him?

[4getmenot]

I have to say there�s no smoke without fire. I could say 99% that my bloke would never cheat. I think he�d feel too guilty plus he�s be cacking it and have to tell me. But this bloke of yours seems a bit sly. How long have you been with him?

[nannon]

Hmmm...never trust anyome who delets ALL their messages - and also who haev different number in their phone under no name...i learnt that the hard way!!!!

[wleshbeetle]

ive stopped reading it now, to be honest im scared of what ill see....suppose i just answered the question to do i trust him then ......

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah i agree 4getme. Im pretty sure my bloke wudnt cheat on me. But never say never! Im quite lucky in that sense... its nice to be in a relationship where you can trust a person. I think in every relationship tho you always have slight doubts!! But if your partner is giving you reasons to not trust you then thats when you got to look more deeply into the situation! And clearly wlesh your bloke is!

[4getmenot]

But thats the thing I guess if that had happened to me I really wouldnt have even thought he'd cheated, coz I trust him. If he'd been out all night maybe. But then he has nights when he doesnt come round and he could be doing it then but I trust him enough to not worry. I think you know deep down really that he could do it to you.

[4getmenot]

am still waiting for a blokes opinion on this though :-)

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah I agree! My blokes done that once. He rang me telling me hes going to turn off his phone coz his batterys dying! And as soon as he came out the club he rang me, soon as he got home he rang me! I never once fort is he with sum1??

[redhead23]

so he txts his ex

and when u tell him u know

he deletes all message

cop yourself on girl !!!!

[confused79]

I would be suspicious too, i would go mad if i see xxx at end of texts he is making stupid excuses up.
But i dont agree with once a cheat always a cheat, that is so wrong but also i do know some people never change also so i see it in two ways.
I would ask him to his face not in an angry way, just mention to him that you feel cheating is the worst thing someone can do to someone else, and if he was cheating you'd rather he was upfront with you than you finding out thruogh some third party, say you would respect him more if he told you to your face. I know this sounds a bit far fetched that he would admit to it, but if he has the guilt might set in and it may then be obvious to you.
I know this worked for me when i confronted my ex it was written all over his face. sometimes being frank about it rather than sneaky works.
I really hope he didnt, my thoughts are with you if he did but you gotta know for sure, cos i know how much it eats away at you.x
good luck

[I_Tried]

Hey wleshbeetle,

He got someone on the side, be warned.

I never known a bloke (and me is a bloke too) upto reading your question come home and shower to be fresh for his girl after a night out, its usually stay dressed and crash out or undress and crash out.

and the fact he said the fone would be ok thats a damn outright lie, cos he didnt want you ringing him whilst he was doing dirty with you cos he prolly told this other girl he is single.

Sorry Wleshbeetle wake up smell the salts and deal with it the only way you can - If i was you i would use the I opt out of this relationship clause- its far ebtter for you to do it now then when you have a proper long term committment.

Mr T. A crazy fool.

[natalie_1982]

Hey Wlesh, did you speak to him?

Sounds to me like he is up to something, even if he didn't cheat on you that night it doesn't sound like it will be long before he does. I'm with 4get in that I think you know when your fella is capable of it or not. When my man goes out with his friends, sometimes he won't be back until 4am but I trust him completely, and I know he the same with me.

I've never felt the need to check my fella's phone, but I know that he doesn't have a problem even if I did because often I'll faff around on it (it's btter than mine!) and play games and stuff, and if he is out of the room I will answer it, etc, and he does the same with me.

I do think that whatever your bloke was up to that night, he didn't want to be disturbed.

And just because I am nosy and want to get a better idea about him - what was he texting his ex about?

[wleshbeetle]

yea asked him he said hes never cheated and wouldnt, dun no wat to do now, think ill just put it behind me and see how it goes from here, thanks for all your help, P.s how do you ammend your username?
thanks eveyone xxx

[natalie_1982]

Just keep your eyes open hun, and don't take any cr*p from him. If you have reason to doubt again then get rid, don't waste your life with someone you can't fully trust, but well done to you for giving it another go. I hope it works out x x

You can't amend your username, you will need to change it for a new name (is it supposed to be Welsh not Wlesh?). If you email the editor they might be able to help.

[4getmenot]

agree with nat. If you have doubts maybe time to move on. And e-mail the ed they will cancel your account then start again. xx