issues - takin things to heart

[jibjab]

hey i posted yeasterday about me takin things to heart, well first thing this morning our sales rep comes in infront of everyone and says "ur gettin quieter and quieter, u should be out of ur shell by now like these lot" the other designers.

it really irritates me, hes a confident loud sales rep used to gettin his own way and im a timid, shy young lad.

thing is, my dad has even had a go at me when i was younfger about it, saying you wont get anywhere without having a bit of mouth

its ok for him to say that after virtually destroying our family by cheating !!

maybe i should grow up not givin a sh1t about any1 else just like him?

i want to get out my shell but when people make idiotic comments like that, it knocks you back 5 paces just when u think ur feelin good about urself

[nat_84]

Dont worry about these loud mouths. I was EXACTLY the same in Secondary School. Every bloody parents evening the teachers would say the same thing "Natalie need's to talk more in class", "Natalie needs to put her hand up and ask more questions!". I bloody hated it and when i did talk people would make a massive thing out of it - "ohhhh Natalie talked!!".

Its a personality thing and there's nothing you can do about it. It's not wrong to be quiet and shy it's all part or something thats makes you you!

Dont let them bring you down and maybe in a few years you'll begin to get the confidence to speak up more.

But dont change to please anyone else.x

[sense4all]

Cobblers to him , you stay as you are ! It is not always the case that those who shout loudest do best in the long run. I bet that your observation and listening skills are better than gobby's, and that will stand you in good stead for the future. The word is full of opinionated gobby gits, doesn't mean they are right, nice or represent the views of the many. I think you are fine as you are, hang in there.

[4getmenot]

I still have all my reports from school and they all say I should speak up and how I was shyest in the class. And always was, but I grew into myself and now you cant shut me up :-) You're just naturally shy you cant help that.

[raysparx1]

jibjab, Nobody likes a big mouth, you do not have to be that way to suceed in life, all these people do is annoy others, never be what you aren't, just be yourself and you will be ok, be honest with yourself and never live a lie,why would you want to be viewed as a big mouth like the twonk you describe, just get on with being you,good luck with whatever you do, Ray