getting money back

[Steviefox]

how do i get the money back i lent my mum

[MrSensible]

You don't you learn a lesson and don't lend her it again, although, you could look at it the other way and let her have it as a gift. Afterall she did spend several thousands buying plimsoles and bait for you growing up.

Or

Depending on the amount get your case/evidence together and take her the small claims court costs about &75 quid I think. Be prepared to ruin your relationship with her for the sake of cash. Worth it?

[kittywoo]

ask her for it!!

tell her you need it back. make it clear it was only a loan!
good luck!

[Steviefox]

its 8 and a half thousand pounds

[Steviefox]

and she is my mother in law and has since fallen out with my wife, on a completely seaprate trivial matter, my wife has asked for the money, but her mother becomes very angry and rude

[kittywoo]

do you have anything in writing?
try a soliciotors letter or small claims court if you have no other option.. 8 and a half is a lot of money she should be thanking you, perhaps shes embarrassed that she cant pay you back straight away? just a thought!
good luck!

[Steviefox]

to be honest i feel totally used and i feel that we were a means to an end, she has fallen in and out of her daughters life for many years and is very self conceited, my wife is of the same opinion, i just need to know what is the best way to get it back if anyone can help my family would really apreciate the advice

[staffs knot]

If she wont pay up and your determined to get the money from her file a claim at your county court in effect suing her.

It may be worth seeing a solicitor unless you know what your doing and have them do it for you. You never know a simple letter from a solicitor may get the required result.

[Steviefox]

i tried to call her and she became very abusive, i didnt even get to ask her about the money, she just was rude

it is a very sorry state of affairs, its been 2 years now and i have to work so very hard to make up for this, i owe this money to my bank, i will seek legal advice