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I think that he is not man enough to own up is really what is bugging me. His car is covered in scratches and dings, ours is otherwise pristine. We are probably going to sell ours soon, but will have to get the door sorted first, our car is dark blue and the scratches have taken off the surface paint leaving white showing (very obvious). It is hard not to be vindictive and plot revenge, if he had owned up, my OH would probably have not made him pay anyway, but it is not the point - this is a grown guy who used to be in the air force and is married with a kid, not some school kid who doesn't know any better. About the pay, not a lot we can do about it unless you lobby your MP! or he gets a different job.