sleepy1, don't despair, there are some wonderful, loyal, kind and loving men out there. Men are, in my eyes, no worse than women. There are good and bad in both. The right one will appear when you least expect it. But until that happens, please don't condemn all men. That just wouldn't be fair. My lovely RATTER found me when I least expected it and when I was not wanting to be found. Luckily I had the sense to give him a chance and I have never regretted it. He make every day special! Best wishes :o)