Elderly Relatives

[Ric.ror]

I wonder if anyone has any advice. My mother is fairly fit and well and would like to go on holiday. Her husband on the other hand is frail cannot walk far and is partially sighted. He has been offered a day every week in a day centre which he will not take and we have suggested he goes in a home temporary in order to give my Mum a little respite care. He refuses point blank to even consider any of these. Are there any holidays specifically for the elderly or is there any one I could contact. Any help at all would be gratefully recieved as I really am in the dark here

[garner]

Why not try your local age concern they might be able to give you some contact details for holidays or perhaps your local social services might be able to do the same.Im afraid holidays ect are not very well geared for the elderly as is alot of things in todays world.Good luck in your quest.

[annie0000]

What about something like a coach tour? Would he manage on and off the coaches - mind you, if he can't see well, he will not exactly be able to see the scenery, but he might enjoy the local history and stories the tour guides tell. At least most of the time he would be sitting down and could probably remain in the coach or in a cafe while your mum had a walk about during the stops. He would also get to stay in hotels and eat out and your Mum would probably find people to socialise with.

Hope you sort something out.

[emx384]

Try SAGA as they specialise in holidays for the more mature client - am sure they could help or even make some suggestions? Hope so anyway - best of luck finding something suitable!

[teddybon]

Your local authority may have a suitable place in the country or on the coast. I know Hertfordshire own an adapted hotel in Clacton that clients can access and pay for according to their circumstances. Good luck.

[WendyS]

Sounds like your Mum could do with a complete break from her caring duties. If her husband (your father or stepfather) refuses to recognise her needs, then he's being very selfish. Could you take your mother away on a short break yourself and leave your father/stepfather to cope on his own at home? This might bring home to him that he's not so good looking after himself after all and perhaps next time the holiday issue arises he might be more willing to accept a week in a nursing home. Or could your Mum come and stay with you for a week? Don't argue with him. Just tell him you've accepted the fact that he refuses to leave home and let him get on with it. Your mother may need to be a little hard hearted about this if she's not to break down from the pressure of her caring duties.

[Ric.ror]

Oh we have been down that road - he refuses point blank to even consider it. I actually felt a bit sorry for him the other day as he has now admitted he cannot go out anymore but he is still firm that he will not go into short term care