harassment

[tonythebiker]

my wife has left me and i have been phoning her up lots of times to tell her i love her and i want her back and i have just had a phone call from the police asking me to go to the police station on saturday as they want to see me as she is getting me done for harassment what can i do? i can't afford to get nicked please can anyone help me out on this matter

[teag1rl]

I should think it'll just be a warning Tony. IF all you've been doing is ringing her a lot they'll just tell you stop it and then if you carry on they might do you for harrasment. I'm no legal expert but I cant see how they can do you for ringing someone too much, without telling you to stop it first.

[jno]

you might try posting this under Law as well, if you haven't already done so; you sometimes get legal eagles answering Qs there.

But I would have to say: try to forget her. I know that's hard (and I'm not sure I'd be able to follow my own advice in your situation), but if she's calling in the police, it's pretty safe to say she's not coming back whatever you do.

[tiny e.a]

Yep, the best way to get yourself out of this matter is to stop ringing her from this moment. I know you won't be able to just stop thinking about her but you need to realise that, though you deeply want them to, your phone calls are accomplishing nothing, your wife is determined in her stance and you have not changed her mind. Continual attempts to do so at this stage are futile and, as you are now aware, could land you in a lot of trouble. As the others say, I'm sure it won't be anything to severe on Saturday as long as the phone calls stop now and and don't start again.

I'm sorry for your situation, good luck with the future.

[Bev2007]

Tony you poor thing, I do feel for you.
The other posters are right I'm sure, about the police and about not ringing her anymore. If it were going to be serious I wouldn't have thought they'd wait until Saturday but follow the previous advice re: the law board.

Your wife has the right not to talk to you if she doesn't want to, and respecting that in light of the complaint she's made can only be a positive thing. She has no doubt got the message that you love her and if there is a glimmer of reconciliation then from my point of view a considered statement of your feelings in a few weeks time (if the opportunity arises) is a lot more valuable than what she might see as frantic callings from your panic and shock or even emotionally bullying.

Dig deep and be steady; its teh only positive thing to do right now.

Good luck

[redhead23]

explain the situation tony ,

saying to the police u know what its like to be in love with some etc etc , i did not know it was upseting her and causing her distress ,a nd i promise i will not call her agian , as ultimatly i want her back and do not want to alieanate her .

tony leave the woman be for a while she ,may need space , without u smothering her x

[tonythebiker]

just after sending this add i sent her 1 more message saying ... please babe drop the charges and i promise i will not phone you again then about 2 hrs later i had the police at my door arrested me i was in the police station all night and went to court today and have to go back in july i'm on unconditional bale.. that's it no more phone calls. thanks to all of you for your help.