ok i know all of this stuff is really hard and the inspection of feelings never really tells you the right thing to do, but i would say that it is great that both you and the 16 year old are respecting her father and there is never any harm in just being friends. however, i do not think that you should go out with this other girl she does sound wicked but just because you want to be in a relationship with the 16 year old (and can't be) does not mean that you should be looking around for a sarrogate relationship, that is well harsh on the cool girl. and i am very inclined to go with fakeplastic's view on things, why worry about relationships now, your only young once and there are so many wicked people out there to have a good time with. enjoy it. also your talking about waiting three years, that's almost a thousand days, with every single one of them bringing with it new experiences and fresh faces.