Friends and their bad habits

[PhoenixAngel]

My friends all have their good qualities and their bad ones but recently they've been really iffy with me. At first i had this big tiff with em recently cuz they thought i had some issues, which ended up on a really lame note because the issues were really REALLY minor, some of admitted it. One was that I'm negative, but I can't change that because I'm cynical and everyone has their problems I just deal in a different way. Ever since then I've been having problems, and been acting really careful coz the lot of them did hurt me, and some of em think I'm being rude when I'm just being careful. One of them, who I don't even speak to, hates me, and I have no idea why, i have learnt to accept it but nowadays she's been saying stuff about me and trying to get other people to dislike me.

In myself I've found that I am starting to dislike my friends and feel as though I can't be asked with em anymore, they're rude immature and at times bitchy and spiteful. I've been hanging out with a few new people an I think they're annoyed with that but at all times I'm gettin a bad vibe. My question is should I care about this anymore, should I try to be their friend still? I'm quite confused and I feel like I can't act like myself around them, they hurt me badly and are continuing to do so...

~PhenX~

[radiogaga]

aww sometimes it best to move on. from experience people change, go thro different stages in their lives.
im still hurting from so called friends actions.
or if thats too drastic, a break from the ones who are doing the hurting and spend time with the new bunch.
if a friend always a friend, a friend is someone who no matter how long you have not spoken, you know there there for you. good luck.

[China Doll]

Phenx I think you should care as I think the problem is completely yours.

I say this as someone who recognises some of their own personality traits in yourself. I'm distrustful and cynical by nature. That's my crap to own not my friends.

Every now and then I get like you. Last night in fact. I stayed home and kept my gob shut.

Sometimes we can be so guarded we hurt the people we care about most. Friendship is a two way things. Sometimes you have to expose yourself a little. If you can't do that then take a break for a night or two and crack on.

Genuine arguments and problems should be dealt with, but you wouldn't like your every weakness pointed out, especially minor and neither will your mates.

Good luck. Don't let hurts of the past fester. You'll only end up in pain yourself. Take care xx