I know this sounds silly...

[Silversky]

(I would like only serious answers only please!)
But I'm going to the doctors on Monday, and I fear I have a sexual-psychological problem called vaginismus.
I'm really nervous about talking to my doctor about this. Anyone got any idea of either how to not be so worried. Or has anyone had this and gone to the doctors?
Thanks =]

[leelapops]

Doc, WTF????
Silversky, I experienced this for some time before meeting my current partner, when inexplicably it stopped. I never saw the doctor (how stupid am I?!) and didn't know the condition existed until more recently.

Seeing your doc about something so personal will never be a breeze, but you have done the right thing by ensuring that you see a doc you are comfortable with. Take a deep breath, and tell her everything that is wrong, all your symptoms. She'll only be able to make a useful diagnosis if she knows as much as poss.

I know how difficult this situation is, and I know that you probably feel helpless, so although my advice just echoes that of others, I wanted you to know it's much more common than it's made out to be, and you aren't alone!

If it IS vaginismus, then medically it's hard to "treat". But your doc should discuss methods that you and your partner can try, from all foreplay and no sex, to not trying to have sex when you are stressed out etc.

I am not going to whitter on about sexual health etc. and patronise you, you're wise enough to be aware of all that, and old enough to take the consequences of sex.

Wishing you lots of luck :) x

[leelapops]

Doc, WTF???? That's well out of order, mate.
Silversky, I experienced this for some time before meeting my current partner, when inexplicably it stopped. I never saw the doctor (how stupid am I?!) and didn't know the condition existed until more recently.

Seeing your doc about something so personal will never be a breeze, but you have done the right thing by ensuring that you see a doc you are comfortable with. Take a deep breath, and tell her everything that is wrong, all your symptoms. She'll only be able to make a useful diagnosis if she knows as much as poss.

I know how difficult this situation is, and I know that you probably feel helpless, so although my advice just echoes that of others, I wanted you to know it's much more common than it's made out to be, and you aren't alone!

If it IS vaginismus, then medically it's hard to "treat". But your doc should discuss methods that you and your partner can try, from all foreplay and no sex, to not trying to have sex when you are stressed out etc.

I am not going to whitter on about sexual health etc. and patronise you, you're wise enough to be aware of all that, and old enough to take the consequences of sex.

Wishing you lots of luck :) x

[leelapops]

So good I answered twice-weird!
Also wanted to say, Silversky, I am sure your doc WILL be sympathetic, but if she is a bit condescending, or starts lecturing you, be very firm and assertive in asking her to stay "on-topic". It is your problem you have come to see her with, not an advice session, and if you did want advice, you would ask.

[Silversky]

Thanks leelapops =]
It does seem really common doesn't it? I'm kinda surprised. And it's such a shame, because it must be awful if you continue to live with it.
Apparently alot of the treatment is counselling with a sex therapist. That'll be kinda weird, but i've had counselling before for different reasons, so it should be okay.
And I am really nervous about tomorrow, and I will take what you said into account and try and explain as best I can.
Thanks =]

[Doc Spock]

hi leelapops, under the circs WTF is a pretty appropriate response.

[Silversky]

No wonder shk and Dot are complaining about men in the post below.
Some guys are really idiotic and insensitive.

[B00]

an appropriate response doc is one of those things you are habitually incapable of giving on this site. Have you ever contributed anything worthwhile here???

Anyway back to the topic silversky, I can't offer any advice, you've already been given some excellent replies (Doc not included), I just wanted to say good luck and let us know how you get on :-)