It's a long time since I had a childminder, but i am pretty sure that under the agreement we had, we both had an entitlement to up to 4 weeks holiday - if it happened to coincide then great, but I could take my child out for up to 4 weeks over the year without paying and the childminder could also have up to 4 weeks off - again without me paying, this was really so that she could take holidays when it suited her and not necessarily when I was taking a holiday. We did however have a great relationship, and she was a very reasonable person. She also only looked after my son, so was happy to take him if he was under the weather as long as I felt happy enough to leave him. Your friends childminder does sound a bit unreasonable, but I guess it depends on the agreement that your friend signed. I would have thought that 2 weeks each unpaid would be a minimum. I know that most employees get paid holidays, but being self employed as a childminder is slighty different!