Blushing problem

[giggles!]

I am going back to my 2nd yr in high school in September and really are'nt looking forward to it. The reason for this is my blushing problem, I blush for the most stupid reasons and start sweating and feeling really nervous, sometimes just because people who are new to me speak to me. I really need to cover this up because it is ruining my social life and making me miserable about returning to school. Life would be fine if I didn't have this stupid problem. And I've tried make up but it doesn't work, just gives me spots which lowers my confidence even more. I'm 14, and I need advice. Please help!

[shy_girl]

hey, omg i kno how u feeling I went through this to its the worst thing that could happen I used 2 pray 2 make it stop!honestly! I hated it soooo much and it still happens 2 me now and again but i guess I got more confidence!I feel for u soooo much cos i kno what u going through!The worst part is when teachers ask you questions on the spot and everyone looks at u!Thats so horrible I had it yr 7 goin onto middle of year 10 Im now going into yr 11 lol and its just about stopped!Until i go back to school it will probably start again i duno!Anyway the best way I deal with it is normally trying to hide or change the subject but I found this can make it worse so I suppose as much as it hurts you gotta admit it i know its really bad but as time goes on it does get better trust me I feel for you so bad so just try and admit it or change the subject quickly, good luck honey! xxx

[K99]

I am 25 and it does still happen to me. I am a fairly confident person and people have actually commented on my confidence so I must be doing something right. But there are times when I'm less confident usually when I'm unsure about myself or the situation or if I'm put on the spot then I tend to blush easily. The best thing you can do is just carry on talking or whatever it is very hard I know cos your aware of the blushing and the people staring but it doesn't last long and you can keep on talking, don't let blushing stop you from saying what you have to say and if people laugh or comment on it just laugh along with them and agree they'll soon get either bored or used to it. My friends are now and they never comment and in talks with them in the past they say they rarely even notice that I blush.

[andy hughes]

This is a problem for you, but importantly, not for other people. The two previous answers offer sound advice - this will pass in time, and you have to learn to control the feeling it gives you. When you feel yourself blushing, just breathe deeply, and concentrate on what you are saying, or hearing, and with practice, you will learn to deal with this lack of confidence. If it helps, a lot of people see blushing as a sign of sensitivity, always an attractive quality! It will pass, everything does.

[giggles!]

Thanks v. much for all the advice, guys. I guess I'll just have to ignore the problem- Grin and bear it! I've just noticed after reading your advice, it's the people who are staring at me when I blush that have the problem, not me. So I'm really going to try to let go of my worries when I'm back in school. Today I got a new hair cut which has definetely brought my confidence up! I've decided to focus on the good things about myself from now on, instead of worrying about blushing all the time. Your advice has really helped! Tnx!!

[shinyhappy]

Hi! i know JUST how u feel. ive just gone in to the 6th form (im 16) and for the past 4 years ive found that i blush SOO much. silly things can start it off, teachers asking me questions, sum1 staring at me, or just one of my friends saying sumthing 2 me. however. im gradually starting to get over it - because i've found sum brilliant self-help methods. most importantly u have to accept that u blush alot. if ur nething like me, u'll b really aware and self conscious when u know ur going to go red, and suprisingly, what ive found helps is saying (out loud) 'oh, here i go again, im going to blush now' it sounds stupid i know, and i didnt believe it when i read it but it REALLY helps. another important thing to remember is that no one is going to think any worse of you, and if they do, theyre not worth knowing! ive found it really comforting to learn that there are other people out there with the same propblem as me, and its made me see that its not my fault, its not sumthing that i have to put up with, and its not worth worrying about. just relax and be calm... it will help u sooo much! Cxx