preteen boys

[chancey]

my son is seven years old, and my sisters daughter said that he wanted to see her private( she's four years old) now my sister won't let my son near her kids she refers to my son as a child malester now. I am very upset .
my question is should I worry about what he did and seek therapy for my son? please help, what do I do?

[boobesque]

Kids naturally go through a curious phase when they start to realise the difference between them and the opposite sex.
Your sister has over reacted, and will be in for a shock if she thinks her daughter wont want to explore when she older.

[black bunny]

Boobesque is quite right - it was natural for your son to be curious, and it certainly doesn't mean he is perverted or a molester. However, if I was in your shoes, I would have a conversation with my son to gently explain that he may have frightened or embarassed his cousin by asking to see her private parts - how would he feel if she asked to show his to her? And to tell him he's not done anything wrong(don't want to give him any hangups!) but that we cover bits of our bodies so that people don't stare or giggle at them, and you don't ask to see these bits.
Hope this makes sense to you!

[clairey-s]

I read that as "wanted to see her in private" - didn't know what the fuss was about!!

He probably didnt really understand what it meant, or the age difference or anything... try not to worry too much
x

[Pippa68]

Totally agree with Boobesque ~ your sister has gone way over the top.

With an attitude like that it is far more likely that her daughter will grow up with the problems, not your son..who appears perfectly normal to me!

[taperface]

Oh dear! Some people just don't understand a normal 7 year old's natural curiousity, do they? Please tell your sister that she'll cause more harm to her daughter by this ridiculous over-reaction, than anything your boy supposedly said! However, because most parents are terrified of anything untoward hapening to their children, I think it just takes a quiet word in your son's ear - to explain that he mustn't say these sort of things to little girls - and leave it at that.

[leewayne]

I replied to a question like this yesterday,she is wrong,its just natural curiosity. She has different bits to him so hes bound to be curious. think its very wrong for your sister to say something like that,hes only seven