Daughter, turning up out of the blue,after 13 yrs.

[NORMANTHEDOG]

I fell out with my daughter (33)some 13 yrs ago and not seen or heard from her since then,yesterday she turned up at my sons house out of the blue,saying she wanted to let sleeping dogs lie and be a part of our lives again,she has 4 children,3 of which iv never met.my son thinks its really good she has come back, and is asking me to forgive and forget,but iv done nothing wrong in this matter,i spoke to her on the phone last night for 45 mins and we had a nice chat,i just feel there is another reason she has made contact again and really dont know what to do,she is my first child from a previous relationship,not from my wife,i really dont know how i feel about her after all this time,any help or advise would be grateful.

[aims1202]

You could give her a chance, maybe she has got to a point in her life where she feels she can start again with you and that she needs to do this before its too late.
Whats happened in the past cannot be changed but it is possible to let go of the past and move on.
If it doesnt work out then at least you both tried. Just take it slowly, tell her how you feel and she may open up to you more then too.
It could all work out wonderfully and you may end up with a really good relationship with each other. Good luck

[4getmenot]

give her a chance, maybe you're looking too much into it. Maybe she has changed and really does want to be part of your life. Think positive. xx

[tiny e.a]

If she's 33 now and you fell out 13 years ago she was very young at the time of the falling out. I expect she has grown up a great deal since then, especially since having $ children.

I think you should grab at this chance of reconciliation with both hands. That's not to say you must immediately embrace her with open arms, but like the others say, take it slowly, don't expect too much, too soon. Take the time to get to know eachother again, not to go over who you may have both been in the past but to find out who eachother are now. If it doesn't work out that will be a great shame but their is no shame on you if you make an effort.

Good luck!

[NORMANTHEDOG]

yes,thanks,i know the best way is to take things slowly and see where it leads.lets hope it all ends happy.

[ronnieblue]

i wish you the best of luck
just take it slowly

[Goodsoulette]

Its been 25 years since there was a huge argument in my family. The family is split and my dad and only one of 6 other children speak to both parents and all siblings. My Grandad comes down here to visit every now and then, he is nearly 80 and I know he wants to see his Grandchildren and daughter but no one will make the first move.

Take this opportuinity and let sleeping dpgs lie. � grand children you are missing out on a very special thing. If there is something other reason, you'll soon find out but meet those kids.

[tigwig]

Norman I really wish you the best of luck, my gut feeling is to take each day as it comes and enjoy the time with your daughter again after all she is your flesh and blood. I just feel that life is too short to lose contact with family and after just going through a horrible death in my family I strongly believe let bygones be bygones. You don't say why you fell out but maybe she has missed having a father in her life all this time and is obviously ready to put it behind her. I hope whatever the reason you can too, you have 4 grand children who you could be a grandad to, just take it slowly and hopefully enjoy building up relationships with her and your grandchildren, good luck

[smudge]

Only just noticed this question.

I must admit, if it was my daughter, I'd be bawling with joy at being reunited with her - whatever the reasons - but it's not me.

As others have said, I think you should take things slowly, one day at at time, so you can both get used to each other again & your new grandchildren - after all 13 years is a long time - but not if you still love each other deep down.

I really do hope it works out for you all - Good luck. -x-

[smudge]

Crossed posts there tigwig - was typing, so didn't see yours of similar sentiments.

[DottyH]

you lucky sod, snatch her hand off and look forward to a wonderful Christmas and hopefully one if many.

[NORMANTHEDOG]

we fell out over money and lazy good for nothing boyfriend,but boyfriend gone now,we are talking on the phone every day,and my son and i will see them next week,so things are ok at moment,she says shes really grown up now and wants a relationship,before its too late,anyone would think im on deaths doorstep,im only 52

[aims1202]

That is so lovely that you are both giving it a go. I wish you both the best of luck and lots of happy years to come.

[bubblegum-31]

good luck norman i hope everything works out perfect for you all

[taperface]

Welcome the girl and her children! She Is part of your flesh and blood after all. You may still have different ideas on life, but it wouldn't do to all be the same. If it was me - I'd just be grateful that she's alive and well, and it all adds a new dimension to your own life.