how much rent?

[johnbikemad]

my kids reckon i should not charge them rent ,they didn't ask to be born ,i charge �110 per calender month and have said it's going up to �130 this includes everything ,they don't like it anybody think this too much? both are over 20 and working full time.

[quizbabe]

I charged mine �40 per week and they helped towards some of the big bills like electricty, gas and water. It was still cheaper than moving out into their own place.

[hotpink]

my mum was a single parent, and there was only me living at home still. i was more than happy to pay her �100 a month (a few years ago). and i always offered to help out with bills and did some of the food shopping. i knew it was hard for her (and all parents) and your kids shouldnt be taking you for a ride, they should want to help you out. they'll get a shock if they think �130 is a lot! they should try moving out, they'll pay that in council tax never mind rent!!

[chazza]

They didn't ask to be born but they are asking you to keep them in your house.

Compared to what I paid when I lived with my parents, that is very low! Going back a few years, I paid �150 a month, we worked out how much I could afford, taking in account of my car payments and how much i needed to live on etc and worked it out from there

[Ethel]

I had to pay my parents one third of my take home pay.

[annavc]

That's low if you ask me. Show them how much it would cost them if they moved out. I pay �430 a month for a room in a shared house plus all bills on top of that. Admittedly that is in London but still - �130 including bills is nothing, especially as they both work full time.

[patsyquinn]

This has been going on since time began! I can remember arguing with my mum back in the 1960s about 'keep money'. Like everything else it depends on circumstances - your income, their income, household outgoings. Above all fairness counts.
I told my children that their keep money would stay lowish (they thought ANY money was too much) while their pay was low. However, as soon as they started earning good money (so into their 20s) they should pay more. I didn't enforce this with my daughter as she was saving to buy her first home. My eldest son was thrown out so wasn't around for the increase and my youngest son had the threat hanging over his head until he moved in with his sister and then it became her problem.
So - there's no hard and fast answer, just what seems fair to all of you once you've all talked it through.
Just be fair!!!

[Lonnie]

The best thing to do, is say to them, okay, don't pay any rent, all you get is bed, their part will be to buy and cook their food themselves, allow them to use the iron after they come back from the Laudrette.

see how long it lasts, they'll soon realise what a bargain, and good parents they have.

I was in the Army, and this is what happened to my brother, lasted two weeks before he apologised and returned to the status quo.

[Pirate1]

I'm on my own with two children (well young adults then!) they are at home but going to university. I charge them �40 each per week. I divided the bills by three and came up with this figure. It's all in and I pay for everything. One of them complains about it and the other thinks its fair. You can't win!!

[cruella]

Have to agree with hotpink
Council Tax alone would amount to the small sum they are paying you.
What you charge them is far too low.
If they did not ask to be born and that is youngsters favourite argument, then you did not ask to keep them when they were old enough to go out to work. They have to be able to stand on their own two feet at some point in their lives.
Good Luck!

[maggs1703]

the same as ethel has said she used to have to pay a third of her money as keep i used to charge my daughter a third of her wages that then covered everything but if she wasn't home at meal times tough i didn't cook again at the time she complained it was too much. - however since she has left home and now pays everything for herself she often asks if she can come home and pay keep again she now knows how hard it really is. good luck

[johnbikemad]

Thanks for the replies, they have now agreed to pay :)

[spanner7853]

i was charged �100 a month when I was 18 (now 36) so I think thats pretty reasonable. I would write a price list inclusing rent cost in your area, council tax, food etc and say you may not have been asked to be born but f you move out this is how much things will cost. Pay it or leave.

[joko]

tell them you will get lodgers in their rooms who will pay

[priorylisa]

Didnt ask to be born, What a dammed cheek.! if they want to live at home just tell them this is how its got to be! when i was 19 i earned �28 and i paid mum �15 of that.Even when i was on holiday i paid her so that meant i had to save as well. Taught me a lot about the value of money

[treborrobert]

lol o my god i only charge my 2 boys 60 pound month lol.. mind you i would never profit from my kids to charge them 100+ is money grabin

[johnbikemad]

theirs no chance of making a profit out of mine my boy eats the best of everything mainly m&s products he eats 6/7 weetabixs at a time ,drinks milk like i own a cow he probably eats �30 worth of food goes to work and leaves his telly on in his bed room all day and his light ,he,s like a 5 yr old i'd rather him go lol

[treborrobert]

well like i said i only charge 60 month my boys r 17 and 19 my son just got a new moterbike and my other son bought a new pc... have you any idea just how good that feels that they buy normal stuff not drugs. beer or cigs...
to me they pay 5 for electric / gas and 10 towards food... its my house and i pay the bills they dont use a great deal as they work full time.... i dont buy there stuff as in soap shampoo razers or sweet stuff choc cakes egc, they get them themselfs and there dinners at work and one day a week they get a takeaway they pay themselfs as for your milk i use 2 x 2L a day they have breakfast and glass milk 2 times a day and cup of horlick at nite..but like i said to see my kids buy nice stuff makes me feel good... you are going to be taken 260 month i would expect everything for that food clothes shampoo egc... and u say they both work full time ? as for the tv and lites .. tell him if he leaves it on even one day a week u will charge him 5 pound a week extra for waste electric and do it every week till he stops ... trust me it will stop lol

[johnbikemad]

yes you are right in a way i'm glad they don't mess with drugs fags and too much beer, but my boy doesn't respect us he alway's verbally abusing us but mainly his mother so i hit him where it hurts ( his wallet ) just to put u in the picture we bought him his first car an s reg clio 18k good cond in 18 months he had wrecked it . it cost us �2,400 he did put his only �800 towards it but my wife had to put him on her insurance and pay that and take the risk! and to day he's so mouthy the next move is on the street if doesn't tone it down
then he will know how good he's been having it LOL

[treborrobert]

why the hell did you buy him a car ? he is over 20 ? my god let him grow up .... if he carnt be bothered save up .....tuff.. as for disrespect you lol join the club welcome to moden day young men lol lol... my son bought me a c.d for christmas ... so i bought him one to ... he replyed is that all you got me .. so i pict up my present and he just smiled and said ... i get you lol lol..... take my advice stick to 100 month and tell them thats for keep.... as for shampoo body stuff pop chrisp sweets egc you pay for yourself and they have to clean there rooms and do there own pots pans egc .. if you want a maid you pay for one.... they only tret you like crap coz you let them stop it ... get them at the table and tell them ... theres going to be changes ..we are not paying for you anymore ...and dont buy it !!!!! sweets crisp pop .... and look at the change in your outgoings lol lol