moving out

[Hollisterxo2]

can i move out and live with my boyfriend when i am sixteen. My mom is the worst. she doesnt support me. she yells at me for no reason and most of all she hates my boyfriend, and me and him are in love.And his mom and dad want me to move in as well as my boyfriend. They no whats going on with my family. My boyfriends mom treats me like i am her own child. i love her like shes my own mother. i dont even call my real mom my mom. Please help me..

[sarah1987]

hello Hollisterxo2, if you want to move out at 16 then you can. you are classed as old enough to make your own decisions. if that is what you want them you go for it. but just think about what you are going to do IF things go wrong with you and your boyfriend, where you would go. it is up to you and if you are happy then go for it.

[cruella]

Hi,
You sound like you live in the States. If you are not 16years of age, I assume that you still attend school.
Very difficult to know what the law is in the USA especially the State you live in at the moment.
You need to be able to suppert yourself and as the previous aber pointed out, what if you and your boyfriend split up.
I would advise you to think seriously before you dod anything you will regret.
Good luck anyway!

[taperface]

I left home at 17, married at 18 - and left him 10 months later. It's all too easy to believe that you're in love at your age, & I think your mum's right to be try and point out the pitfalls. Perhaps you could come to an agreement, whereby you spent time at both houses, until you're old enough to base a permanent decision on how you run your life. Good luck.

[natsp26]

Trciky one that. Over in England when your 16 your not considered an adult until your 18 years of age. You can move out when your 18, but you have to get permission from your parents if your 16, as legally your still under their care. Just suggesting talking with your real mother about what you want, how this boyfriend makes you feel and just knowing that you will be safe with this guy. But you still are a little too young to be rushing into anything, you have your whole life ahead of you. If its what you really want then go for it.

[WendyS]

I think most of the adults on this site will tell you that the relationship they had with somebody when they were sixteen didn't last very long. You may be the exception, and of course you now believe you love your boyfriend very much. But ask yourself what will happen if you move to your boyfriend's house and the pair of you fall out. Despite his mother treating you like her own child, she will feel obliged to take the side of her son and you will find yourself in a very uncomfortable position that the rest of the family would not be able to tolerate long term because it would cause them too much stress. And how would you react if your boyfriend started to bring a new girlfriend into his home? Can you not work out a compromise and stay at your boyfriend's house at week-ends and live at home during the week.? At least then you would not find yourself homeless if the relationship didn't work out long term.