Obsessive ex

[Meg888]

My partner has severe problems with his ex in terms of getting access to his kids. She never has them half the time, they're always with babysitters. She tries to control every avenue of his / our lives with the kids. She spreads vicious lies & rumours re both of us. He had an argument with her a while ago over the children & she assaulted him in front of them & told him he couldn't have them. We had previously been getting them 3 times a wk ev wk for the past 12mths and now she's stopped it once again. He went to the police & she's currently on bail & social services got involved with her as a result but closed the case. She really is the most evil, manipulative c0w ever - she even has a new fella but she wont let go ( the relationship ended mutually 4yrs ago ). She seems to dedicate her life to talking about us (through mutual friends) and trying to control us?? Does it ever let up & what can we do about it? Cant get her on harassment as we now, never cross paths or telephone, this is what we hear through the kids/my partners parents etc - she's got everyone dancing to her tune. Sorry for waffling on but I despair of it! I would appreciate any advice any one has to offer

[beck07]

my mum and step dad had the same problems with his ex wife and their children, she was very violent and a a drunk but social services did nothing, taking her to court didnt help because she played miss innocent every time! my mum n step dad just done every thing above board i:e when she would kick off ring the police and if she does anything out of line tell social services but dont lower yourself to her- she obvioulsy has no life and is acting like a 12 year old! there really isnt much you can do about people like this- sorry couldnt be much help! good luck!

[gemz1987]

i can sympathise, my dad has the same problem with my younger brother. my brothers mum doesn't actually want my bro around but uses him to get to my dad. i no its hard but u have to think of d kids. we basically keep her sweet so that we have access, he needs normality which e gets from us n not her. when there a little older n can choose who they want to say it different but for d mean time, keep her happy n she'll prob give u plenty of access, as and when she wants it as she wont be paying babysitters