I'm a single mother trying to work full time in the same situation. I no how you feel, your just filled with fury! but if you dare express this, everyone puts it down to Jelousy..It's such a struggle when you break up, and your doing the honourable thing by trying to work and keep your head above water without taking benefits...listen, Men do not have the same emotional attachment or instincts as we do...they don't look at the whole picture, just the facts..they can't be there at that time, or that place, and we have to deal with it, if we kick up a fuss, were just all mental!
I think if yourt children feel the way you think they do urge them to express them selves and tell their dad them selves? also I have learnt to always have a back up plan, as I am let down constantly.
Obviously try and keep the relationship between them, as kids need both parents, but be prepared..sometimes when they have new children with a new partner, it gets worse...sometimes.
Also, did you no, that if thinks get really bad, your mortgage can be paid for, interest only..the only draw back is when you sell, you have to pay it all back...so I would rather struggle, and pay, knowing that I will reap the rewards at the end of it.
Hope it goes well and good luck!
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