They make these cone shaped earrings that go from the highest gauge to the lowest, so you gradually push it through mm by mm until you are satisfied. You can probably buy one at the mall, but if not then check at the local freak shop (not porn, just freak). Just consider what you're going to do when you want a real job! I saw this guy last week who must've been atleast 60, with big streched out holes in his lobes. I found it rather comical. All he needed was a backpack and a pair of Doc Martins!