Abusive Family Member

[heartmender1]

We have an ongoing situation dating back 5 years which involves our daughter consistently being abusive, disruptive and that's putting it mildly!

We need to know how to remove her from our premises backed up with a restraining order.

Help anyone......

[redcrx]

how old is she?

[heartmender1]

18

[meredith101]

talk to her, ask her what the problem is. You're her parents, right?

[heartmender1]

Sadly we are well past that stage..

[heartmender1]

Anyone know how to achieve a result legally?

The emotional one we'll deal with at a later stage, but for now we must act.

[redcrx]

well if youre adamant that youre going to kick her out of your home then its as simple as changing the locks when shes out and giving her her belongings.

Thats a huge step to take though with your own child.

[amonty1144]

However it is one that you may need to take for your own sanity and safety, just because she is your child, does not mean you have to have her live with you. Changing the locks is an easy option but I would also seek advice from a solicitor about obtaining an injunction. If she is causing a nuisance at the house, then the police are your best option.

[seatrout]

Been there ,done that it is horrible. We just told our son to go and he went = get a restraining order if you have to but let her know she is welcome back if she shows respect and behaves

[Mully79]

Hi, I don't think she has any legal grounds to stay in your house, so I agree with the others that you could just bag her stuff up, put it on your doorstep and change the locks. If she attempts to get back in, go for a restraining order and involve the police. Keep a record of every single thing she does against you and your property.

Even after what she has put you through, rest assured she is now an adult and if she doesn't have a friend's house to go to, there are options open for her - perhaps print out a list of contact names/numbers of shelters or whatever, then it's her responsibility to sort herself out. A good way for her to get her act together and wise up.

I imagine it's a tough choice for you, but you have my complete respect and admiration. My parents have a 29 year old son who yet again has moved back in with them. Every time he moves out they say they won't let him back - and then they back down. He was mainly verbally abusive (and most of his evilness was aimed at me), is a complete waster and would most definitely have benefitted from being kicked out when he was younger and made to fend for himself and learn some respect.