does he like me

[plbunni417]

there is this guy in my english class and he tells my best friend that he likes me and i told him that i liked him too so we kissed and then at homecoming he was with this other girl and now hes dating her, wat does this mean if he told my best friend that he likes me alot and that he wants to ask me out but hes not sure when???????and he started dating this girl after he kissed me!

[Kingaroo]

One of the tough things about early adolescence is that the main criteria for "liking" someone seems to be that they like you. This guy did not have strong feelings about you when he kissed you, maybe was just intrigued because you liked him. He sounds like he's more interested in the other girl but doesn't want to burn his bridges in case he later decides you're worth toying with some more. He probably isn't being manipulative, he just doesn't know how to behave. Unfortunately, he got under your skin and how you're thinking about him a lot. Our imaginations and wishes aren't easy to control! Even when we know our affection is misplaced, it is hard to make our heart do our bidding. Did you ever hear an adult say "I wouldn't be a teen again for all the world!" -- well this is why. As you have more encounters with boys, you'll start to learn more about what a healthy, meaningful relationship is. It can't be rushed, and is based on honesty, caring about the other's feelings, and talking directly to each other, not through a friend-of-a-friend. (Not to say you'll never be lied to, to your face...) Chin up dear, you'll find someone who deserves you!

[georgit79]

Umm, he's a boy. You'll learn as you get older. They are like (to coin a US phrase) kids in a candy store at that age. I say, move onto the next and find someone who will appreciate you!

[Kingaroo]

And for goodness sake, don't put it down to freckles!!! If he's the one who said you'd be hot without freckles, he's just grasping at straws to explain what he did, when he himself doesn't even know why he's doing it.

[Knob]

He wants you both.  Preferably at the same time, but perhaps you could co-exist on a mutually exclusive basis.  It really is up to you.