Living in sin

[4GS]

Just read a reply from another ABer on another chatterbank post, where she says "most people are living in sin these days". and I wondered, do people still see co-habiting/living together out of wedlock as living in sin? using the word 'sin' would suggest that there are guilty feeling about not being married,
What are your thoughts? sinfull or not?

[redcrx]

children are a commitment in my eyes leg.

[4getmenot]

well then, so what difference did marriage make to you legend when you split in end anyway, it couldnt have made you any closer or committed

[4GS]

Goodsoulette,
let's turn your 1 in every 3 marriages ending in divorce around, and you'll see that 2 in every 3 marriages survive, or 2/3rds if you prefer.

[redcrx]

then it obviously depends on the individual, not the circumstance, as to whether youre commited or not doesnt it?

[redcrx]

yes it is for some i'll agree, not for me and for many i know.

There are also many women who marry a guy and divorce for his money? wheres the commitment there?

Youre trying to pigeon hole everyone and it just cant be done.

[redcrx]

yes ive considered it, and when and if we do it itll be a great party but it wont make our life any different.

at the end of the day our children are loved and wanted and that marriage certificate wont mean that we love them and each other any more because its 'legal'

[Goodsoulette]

I totally take that on board Lambert but I think over a third failing is ridiculous. Especially when the idea behind marriage to me is a proper commitment. If I wasnt in love then marriage would make no difference to the end of a relationship to me, other than I would be better protected.

Leg that woman is an absolute card. I have never met anyone like her, however, the last chap has lasted about 4 months. He appears to be an absolute diamond to her and her kids and has even rised objections to the company she keeps bcuse of the drugs (although I know he smokes pot himself but its keeping her away from the rest of her drug and alcohol abuse).

Times change and marriage isnt a necessity. If I am a 100 percent committed I will live with someone. Not 85 percent or 90 percent, only 100. I have been single for nearly 18 months now and not one guy I have dated has met my children.

Everyone is different but marriage doesnt mean that you are commited.

[4getmenot]

what was me, I dont think so, people cant be pigeon holed everyone is different. You have said before if people live together they are less commited. That may be your opinion but there are some married people that are less commited than people just going out. But seen as you've never lived in sin as this question is about I dont think you can comment. :-)

[alijangra]

I jokingly use the term 'living in sin' because I originally come from a very small religious community and the term is used there frequently, and I can imagine people referring to me and my partner in that way.

[VillageVicar]

Typical me; I started trying to make a simple contribution of thought...and realised I would have to add post after post.

So I've placed it in the diary:

http://bigworldsmallboat.blogspot.com/2007/11/ living-in-sin-great-marriage-debate.html

But most simply: It is never the priest or celebrant who marries the couple. That is an act they do themselves. The priest or celebrant serve as witnesses.

Sin? Some ride through life, refusing to make commitment to anything. Personally, I feel that is a sin.

Be well

Fr Bill

[redcrx]

legend my partner (i refuse to say present as that sounds as if he will change) is not at all fussed that we are not married.