Does anyone really believe that modern life is killing off the hug?
I believe that we tend to hug each other much more these days than in the past.
Years ago we were much more reserved than we are today. I can never remember seeing two males hug each other, a shaking hands as a form of greeting was much more usual.
Even when greeting a female unless she was a family member, hugging was taboo. Yet today we put our arms round each other and give a hug, to most we know well enough.
I'm not sure AOG, I don't come from a particulary tactile family yet I'm quite huggy with some of my very close friends.
I do hug by way of greeting friends when I see them if I haven't seen them for a while but a lot of the friends I have here who I see on a daily basis are male and I think if I was as tactile as I am with people I'm parcularly close to I'd probaby get a bad reputation.
I dislike the give a hug, but to be honest it is not as bad as kissing even if it is an air job. Please no touching unless there is a verbal agreement that it is permissible, in which case I will invariably decline to do so. Shaking hands, how can I be sure that they have washed theirs recently, especially the men.
You know prior to Victoria, we apparently were viewed by our European cousins as being a bit too tactile.
I like hugs (and I've been told I'm good at them). I'm hugged exceedingly rarely, however, so I do tend to appreciate it slightly more when I am.
When people say there may have been a decline in hugging, though, perhaps they mean in comparison with about 10/15 years ago rather than further back than that. I do agree with you, though, AOG, it does seem a tad odd to claim that the hug is dying out.
I am extremely glad that people, espesh the youngsters, are hugging more. I have always been tactile when appropriate and i love to see folks hugging when they meet.
When i left my wife and lived with my teenage sons, they brought round their friends who seemed to start hugging more than ever. If a handshake is a statement of being unarmed and thereby a friend then a hug is a far more commited version of the same.
Perhaps, now I come to think of it. I always saw bear hugs as the rather softer but more warm kind that cover more space (as it were). You're probably right though. Stupid me.
I've considered it and a tight hug is probably more comfy than a bear hug which can not be sustained for a long period of time (constricting airways can be problematic). So a bear hug is good for a quick pick me up but a tight hug can be maintained for longer.
That does make sense. Do you think if a hug involves the huggee being lifted off the ground it's then definitely a bearhug (though that's not a necessary requirement) then?