It is possible, though highly unlikely, that your boyfriend would have been given such a settlement. The court must give regard to the property rights AND the respective resources of the parties, and it may be that your boyfriend was thought to be in a position where he could easily begin again. His wife may have had no prospects of a career, no property and, with children to support, the court may have transferred ALL of your boyfriend's property to her. But such settlements are extremely rare. That's the legal part.
I have to say, it does sound as though your boyfriend is reluctant to commit to you. But what you don't say is how long you have both been together for. If he has went through a rather painful or messy divorce it's understandable he may be reluctant to commit again ,and if you have been together for a relatively short time, why would he want to commit. Maybe you're getting a wee bit too heavy? If not, maybe you're just not the girl for him, and in that case, he's not the man for you.