Birth certificate

[madkitten]

Can my daughters ex make her put his name on my granddaughters Birth certificate

[ethanryan]

no he cant make her it is her decision at the end of the day. however if he is the childs real father would it not be better for the child to put his name on it. when the child gets older she is going to want answers as to why her dad isnt on it. no matter what your daughter thinks of this man he still the childs father and she must remember that otherwise it will only cause arguments as she gets older.

[madkitten]

Thanks this are very bitter between them He dumped her when she was pregnant .They got back together just befor she was born... .kept seeing his ex and got her pregnant too.
My Grandaughter does see her dad but my daughter wont have anything to do with him.

[ethanryan]

if your daughter has allowed him into your grandaughters life i think it is only fair that he goes on her birth certificate. for the childs sake

[madkitten]

I talked her into it I felt my granddaughter had the right to know her Dad .He is always saying he wants custody of her .We both dont trust him.
She can make her own mind about him as she getts older maybe if my granddaughter wants his name on we can do it when she is older .

The only reason it isn't on now is he could not be bothered to go with my daughter to get her registered .

A blessing i think

[Psychick]

I personally would refuse to have it done as he couldnt be bothered to take the time to get it done when your grand daughter was first registered. Another factor would be that neither of you trust him and he is after custody. Im assuming you have your reasons for not trusting him though?
A father can still be apart of a childs life, even if he isnt on the birth certificate, if he chooses to be. Him not being on there isnt going to prevent him from being a dad or stop your grand daughter growing up knowing her dad.

[madkitten]

Thanks

[treborrobert]

right !... is he the real father ? if so the father should be on the birth certificate.. its against the law to say you dont know the father when you do !.. has for him sayin he wants custody .. he has no chance !!! the mother has the law on her side what she says goes he carnt demand at all.... but the personal problems between mother and father should not come between father and daughter..... supervised visits the mother can demand...only ones a fortnight... tell your daughter no matter what he says or asks it has to be agreed with the mother ... she is the key ! and never be bullyed into more visits or stop overs !

[madkitten]

Yes he is the real father she just does not want him on it

He comes to mine once a week to see his daughter

[Goodsoulette]

If he is the real father then he can go to the registrar and get his name put on the birth certificate. Either the easy way, where she goes with him or gives him a letter saying he is the father. Or he gets a paternity test and a court order which gives him parental responsibility and he can be added.

No court will expect the child the baby to be parted from the mother for overnight stays during the year, due to feeding etc. Let him be on the birth certificate and keep thing sout of court as best youy can.

[madkitten]

The child in now over 2 years old Had he been bothered to go when she was born he would have been on it but he was too busy screwing his ex and getting her pregnant

[madkitten]

We can all go into the rights or wrongs of this but my question was can he take her to cout and MAKE her put his name on the certificate

Thanks anyway :o)

[dot.hawkes]

I think it is too late now, i am sure that it could only be added within 1 year of the birth registration, however, there is no reason that the child cannot use his suname as a double surname, we did this with my grandson, though my son did go with the mum and have him registered together, and they gave him both surnames which is his legal surname. You should ring the register office and ask for the ruling on this, whether there is a time limit to adding a father, if within a childs lifetime the parents marry, and the father was included on the birth registration, the registration can be ammended to legitamise the child, but that's a seperate issue.

[dot.hawkes]

my point being, if he goes to court and there is a ruling in place about a time limit on a birth registration amendment, then he would not get the ruling, as it would not be legal to change it, and so you need to find out if it is legally possible to add the name first, then you will know if he could possibly go to court over it.

[madkitten]

Thanks but there is no way she will ever use his name lets hope it is too late to put it on

[Goodsoulette]

No its not too late. A forename change has to be within a year. There is no time limit to add a father, the law clearly states at any time in the future. With the right documentation and evidence, eg, he takes her to court, proves he is the father via a paternity test, he can be added without her permission and without her being there.

[madkitten]

Thanks not want we wanted to hear .....You sound so sure how do you know ???

Thanks anyway

[Goodsoulette]

Because I have a child whose fathers name is unknown on the birth certificate but obviously I know who he is. He occasionally calls up (when about to leave for a tour of duty) saying he wants to be part of our lives and I wondered whether he would be able to get his name on the birth certificate. Not that I Really have any problems with it, just odd that he has had no part of his life for 6 years. So I researched on the internet and then asked the registrar here. Even places like the deed poll sites will tell you a fathers name can be added at anytime in the future.


http://www.gro.gov.uk/Images/GRO%20185%20-%20J une%202007_tcm69-47868.pdf


here is the form that he would need to do it, as you can see it states if the child is over 16 years old they have to consent to name change, so that tells you that part. Also the parentage declaration part sort of explains thats its not the mothers choice. If a court awards him parental responsibility and proves him to be the natural father then he can be added to. I would imagine your daughter had the right to keep the childs surname as it is.

[Goodsoulette]

Just to add she does have the right to keep the surname as it is. If he goes to court to get this, she can say she does not want the name to change and they will make a court order to specify this.