Religious Nutter Colleague

[flip_flop]

I have a colleague who is very very religious - so religious in fact she once referred to On The Origin Of Species as 'that evil book'. She genuinely believes we are all descended from Adam & Eve. These are just a couple of examples of her religious nuttery - there are many many more.

Anyway, it transpires she has been shagging a colleague for the past two years.

Now I am fairly naive in the ways of religion/faith as I tend to think it is all a load of old hokum, but, can somebody please shed any light on how on the one hand somebody can be SO religious, yet on the other she is prepared to break one of the ten commandments (she's married by the way) and is prepared to break the vows she took before her Lord.

It strikes me that many religius people seem happy to bend or break their rules in order to fit in with their own particular circumstances.

All answers appreciated - because I fully intend to ask her how her adultery sits with her religion (I know, its none of my business, but she really is a bloody horrible woman who is always busying herself with other peoples business, so now its payback time!).

[MatydaLover]

I wonder who will be at the front of the queue to cast the first stone.

Seems to me there's a headlong rush to condemn.

"Behave as you wish, keep quiet about it, and don't get caught." Well, I suppose that's a self-justifying ism no worse than many others.

[WoWo]

flip_flop - it depends how much effort, time and expense you want to go to but this is what I would suggest.

2 options....

1. go to the local funeral directors and order 2 stone tables with the 10 commandments on, but get the chap who is doing the carving to do "You shall not commit adultery." in capital letters, then get in extra early and pop them on her desk.

2. get a copy of the bible and highlight "You shall not commit adultery." with a highlighter pen and leave open at that page on her desk.

Maybe if there are like minded people in the office you could have a whip round for option 1.

[Bewlay Bros]

2 points to make that are relevant though not necessiary important!!!

It is estimated that 60-70 percent of American Republicans do not accept evolution as the bona fide morphology of man;s creation.

Considering this is by far the greatest political party in the entire world, one may find this worrying.

Second point is whatever your friend's views or belief, God gave her free will. he gave her the power of choice, the power to make her own mistakes, the power to NOT adhere to his ideals.

This "free will" is seen as a cop out by non-believers as it can explain murderers, rapists, terrorists, kiddy fiddlers and the Welsh but it is what I believe.

Whether scientific fact or religious voodoo, I have the choice to committ adultery if I want to.

Also, Christianity, unlike Islam, is changeable. There are gaylords, pro-choicers, divorcees, tax collectors and Sunday workers all in the Anglican church. If she feels the ned to go over board with an illicit, adulterous affair, then there is clearly something wrong with the marriage in the first place. she should still work at it though as marriage is sacred, if not a legally binding contract of love.

Therefore, she is s sl4g. But still a Christian sl4g.

[China Doll]

No one is condemming her for the affair Matyda... in fact if you want to go down that line of thought....

I had a relationship with a guy that lasted a month. It had no future cause he was married although at the time split with his wife, he has said himself that he still loves me and I know he definitely still fancies me. However they're back together and we're still friends.

I await the first stone. Because what I did is worthy of some condemnation. It's not something I'm proud of. But... I've never forced my own views on God or relationships down someone elses neck and then gone out and done just what my inclinations want.

[flip_flop]

People - don't get me wrong, I'm no saint, far from it, but then I've never held myself out to be.

However I do feel morally superior to this woman, even though I've had sex with married women, simply because I have never preached from on high the way this woman does.

Plus I'm not married - not that that's a defence. ish.

[MatydaLover]

I have to leave this discussion now, maybe check back later if WWIII hasn't yet started.

None of us are saints, nice to see that we agree on that. But I don't believe that any of us can claim to be morally higher than another. We all have our own standards - they are different, not better nor worse than someone else's.

As soon as you judge, you are effectively making up your own commandment that you expect others to live up to.

[weeal]

I agree that she shouldnt be doing one thing and preaching another.

Next time she shoves religion down your throat - shove morality down hers and see if she likes it !

[mrs_overall]

I can't stand these religious hypocrites.
After my 1st marriage broke down I moved away and started a new job. My line manager was a pious Catholic who took every opportunity to belittle me over my sin - divorce. She told me on numerous occasions I was destined for hell, particularly when I met Mr Overall before my divorce was finalised and she called me an adulterer.
I had to leave the job before I poked her eyes out.
She was married with 2 kids and was pregnant with her 3rd when I left work. I genuinely am not a nasty person but it did my heart good when I found out that her 3rd child was mixed race as she'd been having an affair with an illegal immigrant.
Let he/she who is without sin.........ha ha ha

[Octavius]

So flip-flop you are not taking the moral high ground, merely asserting her own unobserved religious rules to use against her. Might you next be asking her to abstain from taking holy communion and attending mass more often to absolve herself of her sins. Perhaps recommend a pilgrimage to Lourdes or something, to make you feel better.

I agree with you that on a moral note that it is improper, and should she at any future point berate or enforce her religious morals on you, you might politely refer to her unchristian indescretion. But to take it upon yourself to parad in front of her with your 'you aint as religious as what you sed you woz' on the basis that you understand her and her religion more than she does, dpont that make you seem a bit of a numpty? Fine on a moral basis - say you dissapprove if you are looking for the (dreaded) upper hand.

God help her if she ever decides to covet her neghbours ass.

[beatlegal2]

she do sound abit bipolar.it may be that all she wants is a weekly shag and her ole man not up to muster.ask her where in bible it says .ya could always email her this thread,i not saying name names,oh to hell with it name her she sound real bitch