Devout catholic

[warpig3]

Just wondering if there are any devout catholics around, if so I would appreciate your opinion, or anyones take on this really.

My partner and I are expecting a baby shorlty (we aren't married) and his mother is a very devout catholic. She rings him up really upset and crying because - we are not married, the child will be a b@stard (her word not mine and said with some venom), we have shamed her infront of her friends. I should point out that this is not soley directed to us, she has other children who live with their partners which upsets her, some of whom have children (more b@stards, again her words), a daughter who is getting divorced (the shame, she should have stuck with it). Basically she is in turmoil over all her children, and anything they have done morally has been against her beliefs

All her children are fine and well adjusted adults (as well adjusted as one can be) but she appears to be more concerned with how their 'antics' are viewed by herself and other people (her peers).

My partner has been more than patient with her and tried to explain that times have changed and that no one is doing this deliberately to hurt her etc but to no avail. Personally, I am getting tired of it and want to grab the phone and tell her to catch herself on, but I know that would definitely not help.

So, can anyone offer any suggestions on how to diffuse this situation (besides all the kids getting married) or what may help to ease this ladys anxiety? I do feel incredibly sorry for her as this is ruining her life but rather than looking for the good (new grandchild) she can only see the bad.

Many thanks, warpig

[weeal]

Warpig, Im glad you now feel a 'bit' better about it and its nice that you want to understand her more and be patient with her, I just hope she allows you the same one day.

Good luck with everything and just look forward to the birth of your new baby.

Al x

[warpig3]

LOL, Lilol'lady, I think it is the partaking of a wee dram on her part that generally initiates the phonecalls!!!! And I have to admit in my more sinister moments of thinking that there must be some skellingtons hidden deep in the family history.

Weeal - thank you, xx