family issues

[hlh123]

how do i stand legally with taking my daughter to live abroad.I was not married to her father but his name is on the birth certificate,can he stop me from going?

[helpmeout06]

I'm no legal expert, but I'm quite sure that you have parental responsibility which means you make all the decisions in your child life, so you don't need his permission, if he objects then he may decided to challenge you in court, but I don't think he can do much about it unless he thinks your reasons are unreasonable, I'm thinking of taking my children overseas, the UK is not a pleasant place to be in, good luck.

[bexste]

I think it depends on wether he has parental responsibilty or not. If he has you will have to get his permission.

[hlh123]

I think it will proabably go to court

[brickwall]

I have parental responsibility for my eldest daughter (my youngest is not an issue) however I received this only in January of this year and it clearly states that the father cannot take the child abroad at all without leave of the court howver I can take her upto a month only then I would have to seek an order of the court. I think deffo a court may need to decide.

[scorpious123]

im not sure about that one but if he sees the daughter and is a decent father, then i think you should talk to him first about it so he can think about it , and if he doesnt like it he has a choice to challenge you in court ,

[NikJak]

I think yd be surprised at how much power/say he could have if he looks into it. My friend had a daughter 7 years ago, the dad was a wealthy local business man who took no interest in her pregnancy or daughter. She eventually got pathetic maintenence out of him but only after a DNA test because he disputed paternity. His name has not gone on the BC. Since then he has seen the little girl about 10 times. Last week out of the blue she received a solicitors letter saying that he is seeking a "Parental Responsibility Order" which will give him as much say in her life as her Mum. She sought help from a solicitor and has ben told he will almost definitely get it - even though he has shown no interest so far in forming a proper relationship with her. How scary is that! She is now hoping to convince a judge that she would be "happy" to agree to the order only after he has proven his intent by consistantly keeping to fortnightly access for a couple of years first. She's not happy at all but it's not going to be her choice at the end of the day.

Like another poster said tho - it he a good dad? Will she miss him too? On the flip-side, I had the chance to move to Holland with the love of my life a few years ago but just couldn't because I couldn't take the boys away from their father (we'd been seperated a while and he'd remarried) and sadly my BF and I split up. Two years later ex-hubby upped sticks and moved hundreds of miles up country without a care in the world and only sees the boys 4 times a year - why did I worry?

Hope you find a solution.