the end of relationships

[barclay]

My boyfriend has just broke up with me, and I am pretty devastated about it. He said he doesnt feel the same way anymore and he has stopped loving me! Being a typical female i dont really understand this. I love him so much and since we have started going out I have only grew to love him more. Is this just a phrase that people use to break up with you? Or can you actually fall out of love with someone? Ive been hearing the usual from all my friends and family, you get over him, someone better will come along. Is it totally stupid to be thinking, that I only want him back? If anyone has some good words of wisdom I would love to hear it. All I can think about is him and everything reminds me of him!! Im just an upset girl who would like some advice. To either get over him or get him to love me back. No harsh words please im pretty fragile at the moment. Thanks

[filthiestfis]

Barclay: I am sorry for the breakup. It is very hard when you still have feelings for your partner and you are suddenly dumped. The first time it happens is particularly hard. Your mind goes into overdrive thinking over and over about what happened, the good memories...you cry, you despair, you feel sorry for yourself, then you feel angry at him for not wanting to be with you, maybe you becoe paranoid thinking that he must be with some other woman...you go through a whole range of emotions.
Best thing to do is to keep your mind busy, talk it over with your girly friends, go out with them....just dont listen to "your" music or anything that reminds you of him. If need be speak to your GP about taking antidepressants. They do help.
Unfortunately it is true that people fall out of love and fall into temptation as the novelty of being with someone wears off.

[Whoever]

I think once the early excitement of a relationship starts to settle down, people either get used to their partners and enjoy what they have, or become bored and realise that perhaps their partner isn't fulfilling all of their initial hopes in some way. Also, when one person is perhaps living the kind of life where they are continually having new experiences, perhaps in a work environment or skills development, they find themselves emotionally moving on in some way. One of these things may have happened in your boyfriend's case. It's understandable that you are feeling hurt but you shouldn't asume that you are inferior or "defective" in any way. Sadly some relationships do not survive the initial expectations of both partners. In time somebody else will come along for you. Don't blame your boyfriend. It could as easily have happened to you in a relationship, with you being the one who found it was no longer fulfilling your needs. None of us can be "all things to all people" and along life's way most of us have had this happen to us at some point.. It's gutting while it lasts but heart do mend.