I have a date tonight

[lil123]

And I am nervous as it's the first one
Any tips please as I have been single a while I forgot how it all supposed to go

[Beetledewz]

Be yourself. Remember to look up and smile. Don't worry about saying all the wrong things as I'm sure they will feel the same.

What are you doing on your date if you do not mind me asking?

[raysparx1]

Good on yer lil, have a great time, don't forget to wash and put deodarant on, clean knickers a must, little perfume and make up, (not like barbara Cartland) and get stuck in there.

Seriously, just relax, and let yourself enjoy the night out, ask lots of questions about who is taking you out, but I think the main thing is for you to be you, no putting on an act, good luck with it, let us know how it goes, Ray xx

[funnygirl]

If you have a drink before you go, to steady your nerves, make sure it is just the one.

You don't want to be turning up drunk!!

Just go with the flow.

[Bathsheba]

Good luck lil. Just encourage him to talk about himself- blokes love that! x

[Desperado]

Good luck. Don't be nervous.

[lil123]

He is cooking me a meal at his place
I spoke to him on the phone the other night and we talked for ages there wasn't any of those nasty silence bits which I was worried about
I just keep thinking what if he doesn't like me and all that after my ex husband was a nasty horrible mean man and was always pulling me down
We have said though that we will remain friends if we don't think there is a spark there
I do find him very attractive so that is a good start

[funnygirl]

That is great Lil.

A man that cooks. Snap him up!!!

Take a bottle of wine with you, it's a nice gesture.

[gina32]

how did you meet him?

[raysparx1]

Hi lil, forget your ex, he was just a prat, most of us blokes are ok, he must like you to want to cook for you, so try and enjoy the evening,, he sounds as if he is a really nice bloke, it will be fine, good luck with it, hope all goes really well. xx

[lil123]

Oh raysparks you have really made me laugh there I have tears rolling down my face as I have this image of Barbara Cartland with clean knickers on in my head!!! xx

[mirela]

hi lil, remembered last time read ur post, u r living in york. there are lots nice restraunt to go, but emmm, having meal in his place, sounds very good start:))
just be yourself and be confident, keep smiling:)))

[lil123]

I met him in Yates the other night and we have been texting and emailing since
I was supposed to go out with him Tuesday but I bottled it and went out with my mates instead

[aka pixi]

As there wasnt any nasty silences on the phone I bet you will be just fine. I think its loads harder to chat on a phone than face to face :D

Have a brilliant time xx

[lil123]

Me being me was thinking there could be a altera motive for him wanting me at his place but I asked him out right and he said NO but would he really tell me anyway?
He did want to come to mine but I said NO I really want to get to know him first

[raysparx1]

Thats good lil, keep that image in your head then and you will be relaxed, I myself just cannot imagine barbara cartland in her knickers (Thank god) that is scary but there you go, take care and remember as all have said relax and enjoy, Ray xx

[gipsey]

go girl go have a great time has he got any mate,s?

[andrea81]

You can only be yourself! And at the end of the day you can be rest assured he will be just as nervous and as soon as you meet eachother it'll all fall into place!

If he's not the one, then you will have made a friend!

x x x x

[gina32]

at least you have met and been talking and the rest, just remember the chances are he will be as nervous as you especially as he is cooking probably more so, just go and have a great time, and report back lol

[mrs_overall]

A friend of mine was in a similar nervous state over a new man. She'd been divorced for years and was out of practice at dating.
Her most embarrassing moment came when they went to bed together for the first time as she's middle aged, has a child and was worried about her body heading south.
After the deed was done and they were having a cuddle, he announced "You are really nice inside."
Still nervous, she began to babble that being nice inside was all down to the fact that she'd had a caesarian rather than a normal birth.
The man looked at her in a puzzled way and then said
"I meant that you are a nice person."

She was too embarrassed to see him again.