I say no, but it doesnt work!

[Weaza_cfc]

This sounds really teenage angst-ish, and i apologise, but please help anyway.

A few of my friends smoke (@ aged 14 and 15) and after the initial letcure i tell them i don't mind, if they want to kill themselves in their spare its got nothing to do with me, and we are fine. But one particular friend keeps pushing me to try smoking, and not just that, but other drugs too. No matter how many times i say no, she persists. I sounds pety, but it really makes me uncomfortable. Any suggestions on what i could do so that she gets the message?

[hopalong]

Walk away

[Oor Wullie]

She is not a friend if she want's you to put your life in danger. Like hopalong say's WALK AWAY.

[cheyenne]

Iknow this sounds olds fashion,But tell your mum,your best friend!!if you havent got a mum ,then youve got to be strong,listen you had the guts to go on answerbank-please dont give in to these so called friends,imagine how their gonna look in 5 years time.When your in their company,you try to take control, dont be timid any more ,your no 1,and dont forget IT!!

[Wraith]

Hi Weaza_cfc

It's good that you've made a decision and your sticking to it. That's a hard thing to do when under pressure. You other friends sound as though they are happy with your decision, could you get them to have a word with this other friend? If this other friend keeps insisting then they are no friend at all and you should try seeing less of them. I know that is a hard thing to do, but you must stick by your principles.

 

Take care.

[cheyenne]

Hi wraith,good answer!!

[liljoolz]

i was in exactly the same situation at your age and i am afraid to say i caved in. its only now at 21 i realised that the friends who pushed me into smoking etc are still that same as when i left for uni straight out of school. whereas i went out a learned something and did something for myself, they shacked up and had babies, whilst still smoking etc. you'll have plenty of friends from the age you are now till the day you become a biter old fart, so dont do as they say and go out and find others who have the same feelings/views as you.

[senga-marie]

I think you realise this person is not really a friend. ie: someone who has your best interests in mind. If you can, drop this person, or avoid her where possible. It may sound harsh, but this girl is on a bus to nowhere, make it clear that you have no intention of travelling on it too.

[Weaza_cfc]

Thank you everyone. I think i will talk to my Mum about it.

[snook]

Good on ya, Weaza, you're thinking for yourself, and that's pretty rare these days, specially in your age group (sorry, that sounds really ageist, and probably is too).  Always have faith in yourself, not your 'friends' - you're only answerable to yourself ultimately, and you have to live with your decisions... even if they affect your health.  Don't give in to peer pressure.  If you're getting pressure from your peers, get different peers round you.  Find positive friends.  Lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas!

[mully]

weaza, don't let anyone push you into anything and dont give in to peer pressure, I am 25 and I started smoking around 14,  which I wish I never did -cos all my friends did it I did, which was very stupid looking back but i thought i was cool when really I would of been much cooler by saying NO and standing up for myself.

 I wish I could give up this awful habit, not only is it smelly,expensive and also destroying my health, I always look back to when i was 14 and think i wish id never took that one drag or tried it just to see what its like, so just remember stand up for yourself,

True friends would not push you into anything you did not want to do so maybe break away from this crowd or tell them straight that you do not want to smoke or try drugs and if they persist you'll find some other friends.

I know this might be hard but when your older and you see all your other friends drug addicts and dying of lung cancer youll be so glad that you had the guts to say no.

you sound like a sensible girl weaza so stay strong and take care x

 

[moosa]

I'm probably just repeating what other people have said but never mind (i couldn't be bothered to read everyone else's answers-sorry!), she's ovb. not a real mate and your other friends sound like they are just tryna look cool, well done for making the decision to be an individual and not to go along with the crowd but my advice is don't hang around with her so much, find a new crowd of mates so when you do hang out with her you'll have loads to talk about and she'll prob forget all about trying to make you smoke and take drugs.

[georgit79]

I agree with the first two answers (haven't read any more yet). You sound a lot like I was at your age- very clear about your own opinions but not wanting to rock the boat amongst your peers. However, people like this (especially girls) are really not worth bothering about. Just tell her to get a life and stop interfering with yours. What other drugs is she taking, out of interest?

[Weaza_cfc]

Got in one georgit79: I know what i think, but i don't like offending others. Shes does weed and magic mushrooms.

[georgit79]

In fact, Weaza, I think you are in fact me 10 years later! You're into your football and you sound just like I was "oh my god I can't believe it's 10 it seems like yesterday" years ago.

[Weaza_cfc]

Hmm, weird! Only i don't support Man U! Maybe we were related in a past life...