Manipulative discontented parent?

[Beetledewz]

Would you use your own child as a tool to get your own way?

I read in the newspaper today about a father who stabbed his two children to get back at his adultress wife. His son died and daughter lived. They weren't even into double figures.

Why would anyone be as pathetic to use a baby in arms to get a dig in?

I remember a friend thinking it funny to get his son to say to his mum in hospital that he wanted her to go and he didn't like her because he wanted the bigger cuddle from his daddy. You know his son broke down to him one night and still feels awful for it at 17 years old and he was only three? I'm shocked he even remembered. How can a child remember that? I had something similar myself when I was young.

I look at myself. Look at eighteen year olds and they are shockingly young. Surely a 3 year old is beyond innoncence. Probably that way until double figures surely.

So unfortunate some parents are so bitterly sad.

[legend004]

Legend. If you respond to a question, then it's complicated enough for you. I apologise if it's not your quiz of the day regarding what toilet paper you wipe your bum with or baked bean you use.



Max if you cant see a hidden agenda here then im bemused.


I have disagreed but as for insults and personal stuff thats eminated from beetledewz.

Where are we from beetledewz?

[legend004]

Beetle youre imagining now.
And when was james bond ever paranoid?
And if youre a egular user you know im always on 24/7 i never sleep.
so ?

Spill the beans or are you still hiding?

[Beetledewz]

Legend I find you so amusing. You're acting as if you posted the thread and I insulted you in your thread. I've posted nothing that you implied. I've said nothing that you've implied.
I've implied nothing that you've implied.

You came into my thread. Simple.

Max? Please don't reply in this thread. It's gotten carried away sadly. One man has seen fit to that. I see no proof of anything he's said, but he's convinced and I have not the heart to defend. I've already given away too much of my time.

[legend004]

Btw youre paranoid.
I never said you were baiting me with the question.
Not ever.
I did say you quickly had digs at me about women , my personal life etc.
Apparently you know me , but you dont , but you do ??

strange?

[legend004]

Run along you really are sad .
An uncle maybe.
But a long way from knowing how a parent feels.
A long long way.

I pity the fool.

[~max~]

Sorry Beetle, I won't reply after this. I just wanted to say, I am just as bemuzed as you. I have no idea where all this came from. Take care!

[perigra]

having a tough time again leg? lol

[legend004]

Max you dont know who beetle is .

No problem.

But you really oughta be a bit less judgemental .

Take care.

[legend004]

Nah perri
.
But theres always more to these users than meets the eye of the gullible.

Read between the lines .

Im a magnet to it.

I think beetles been on the moby and is a tad upset poor boy .

CYA

[Beetledewz]

Ah I was beginning to warm to you legend then you did a Mr T quote. I pity the fool indeed.

By the way. Not that it matters. What's the problem asking this question if you aren't a parent?

Aren't you allowed to be concerned?

Aren't you an (as you put it) UNCLE too? Or is that a cheap thing?

I've wasted far too much time on you. Goodnight and goodluck.

[legend004]

Who said im an uncle?

Ohhhhhh i get it lol


Are you cROSS with me?

Now now silly boy.

Dont worry youll be a daddy 1 day.

Maybe eh?

Keep trying.

[legend004]

And i know youre still there.
Got another few hours to spare eh

lol

[legend004]

Max by now i reckon the penny will have dropped?

Its ok many people are taken in .


Such is life

[gallapunk]

I'm a parent. I think it's sick and disgusting to use children to 'get back' at an ex partner. My bf's ex uses her disabled son to do this and has done so many times over the past few years. She phones/texts saying his is in hospital after having a fit. My bf phones the hospital; they have no record of him being there at all, ever, even in outpatients. She sends tablets with her son when he comes to stay that they have never given him (valium) and she 'forgets' to pack the tablets he does need, to stop him having fits. She tells her son that he has to choose between his mum and dad and makes him so upset (we glean this from the little he can relate to us because of his various disabilities). That is only a brief outline of the things she does, she is truly sick.

She also receives �500 per month 'entertainment money' for her son (it's in benefits, and it is called 'entertainment money'). In all the years my bf was with her and their son, he was never told this, never knew anything about it. He (more than willingly) spent his own money on his son's entertainment and his wife kept that money somewhere, he knows not where, but she never told him about it and she never spent it on her son.

So not only does she use her son to try and hurt her ex - and also put her son's health at risk in the process - but she robs from her son as well. Truly marvellous.

[legend004]

Sorry to hear that galla.
Sadly many women do this.
Its not a woman bashing thing.
Its a statistical fact most kids end up with the women.So its obvious more women do it than men.and ive heard many stories.
i suppose fathers 4 justice are all nutters too

[~max~]

No, Legend, the penny hasn't "dropped". You're the only one thinking everyone is against you. I don't give a sh!t who posts under what identity, as long as their posts are neither offensive, no abusive. I'm pretty sure Beetle is noone else but himself.

You are paranoid, Leg.

Shall I add that nothing has been said against you in this thread, that could be construed as a personal attack? Never mind. You will always make what you like of any post. So be it.

[legend004]

Sorry youre so gullible max.As i know exactly who beetle is .
Unlike you.
No matter you have your opinion i have the facts.

You really dont need to be so moody.
Take care .

[jojojojoanne]

first of all the fact we have a media story/report we are aware in this country that all media is business and has its own political agenda and has to conform to advertising regulations/standards to comply with censorship regualations. fair enough the media story is reported as such though we as the readers do not know the whole truth, so i think to give a comment on it shows us acting from a judgemental perspective, i.e big brother state.

whether or not children tend to be products of their environment, people should probably try not to affect their children in what could be considered an negative emotional way, though most humans are free to pro create and make their own choices on how to bring up a child, (that is unless they are deemed unfit in the eyes of uk law,)

[haysi06]

Hi Beetledewz, thats a horrific story and my heart goes out to the family. Children should be nurtured and loved and NEVER used by either parent to score points during a break up. Sadly not all parents realise that and I have seen people behave badly with ex partners when the children are there. I know that the example that you have given is rare however I also know that some parents will do whatever they can to discredit their ex. They have left the partner not the child and to use a them in that way is unforgiveable.