Pah!

[Goodsoulette]

This should probably be in family or relationships or something but seeing as it is more of a rant, I figured it could go here.

My ex left for America a week ago to meet a girl he had started chatting to on facebook. They are getting married on Friday.

Most of me is thrilled that he is leaving for good but there's another part of me that is furious. How can he leave the kids like that? He was supposedly cut up the whole time he lived in Birmingham because he couldn't see them so often. I know that I will never see another penny out of him again.

He's told me how great his wife to be and if you knew our history you will totally understand that I am not jealous of this one little bit. He's semi informed me that she would treat them as her own on visits and I just can't help but get angered by this. Why would I let my kids go stay with someone who lives the other side of the pond, who he is physically known for just a week! Especially considering he bullied me sooo much I couldn't even consider calling anyone I have dated in last two years a boyfriend, for feeling his wrath!

How could he emigrate if he really loves the boys?

[4getmenot]

and here comes the name calling. legend you put 'Id stay but some of the things said here are totyally uninformed rubbish and purely personal and arent constructive in anyway' this to me just isnt fair as these are people opinions. Thanks

[helliebobs]

Hey I tell you what guys, just for once, can we not make this post about someone else? It's goodsy's problem here, stop creating arguments when there shouldn't be any.

[4getmenot]

my friend is in same situation been left in alot of debt and a young child, and her ex well he's fine, he got away met someone new and is getting married. It isnt fair is it goodsoul

[4getmenot]

helliw that is exactly why I am trying to change subject. My original post was all about her and I do feel for her having had people close to me go through the same. xx

[whiskeysheri]

Hello, goodsy!

As so many other have said, I can't understand anyone moving away from their children. When my mum and dad split up, my dad's cousin in the US offered him a highly paid job and a lovely house, but he always said he would never have left us. This was at a time when he'd just lost his business, his marriage had broken down and he'd lost his family. It would have been really easy for him to just up and leave. It means a lot to me that he stuck around.

My sister has given her ex so many opportunities to keep seeing his daughter and every time after a couple of weeks he decides to not show up, changes his number and "disappears", until the next time in about a year's time when he'll ring her and ask for another chance. All it does is mess with my niece's head.

It's only your ex that will miss out in the long run when your boys are old enough to form their own opinions of him. You do a brilliant job, hun. Your boys are so lucky to have you and when they're old enough they'll know that. You should be proud of yourself. x x

[Goodsoulette]

I've appreciated every opinion given on here. Thanks for taking time out to reply to what is really a bitter rant. It doesn't seem fair but the last thing I want is a husband lol one night with Dave Grohl will do me lovely!! hahahaha get behind me helliebobs

[4getmenot]

Just the one night?? :-)

[helliebobs]

blimey, showing some restrainst there goodsy!!!

[Goodsoulette]

it would be the best night of my life though! Apparently he's an amazing conversationalist *cough*

[natalie_1982]

Think you'd have to fight my mum for him, she is *waiting* for either Dave Grohl, Kelly Jones or Al Pacino.

Just want to stick up for dad's (some of them anyway lol) here..... Even if dad's do move away it doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship has to stop, from a personal point of view, my dad moved away when he and my mum split up - not out of the country admittedly, but 200 miles away. Anyway, he spoke to me and my brother about it at length, he went for a trial period, and we were always kept informed and kept in touch and even now (over 10 years later) we speak on the phone 2-3 times a week and see eachother at least every other month for a long weekend and our relationship is better for it.

Good luck goodsy, feel free to rant and moan as much as you like on here xx

[4getmenot]

:-)

[natalie_1982]

That's a shame leg, and I'm sure he'd make a great step-father too...... ;-)

[cazzz1975]

It all sounds a bit fishy to me goods, it could be he is caught up in the whirlwind of it all, the whole romance, the excitement of emigrating ect.

I can understand why you feel the way you do, try to be on the fence with this, make sure you get a contact mail for him so at least he can see the kids on the webcam/photos ect

If he is only known this woman for a week its highly debatable if this will go the distance especially considering his insecurity issues, in fact such a dramatic decision on his part can also be a sign of depression.