Dramatic Mother

[olderhippy]

Hi all, I sit here with my head pounding and wonder where I will be in a years time. Basically I'm sick to death of my mother totalling interfering in my life. It goes beyond parental love, feels more like a slave domination. I once heard he say that I enjoy been "bossed" about and told what to do. A few years ago I moved in with her to help during an illness and found out why my friends stopped calling round and phoning, basically she was interagating them. Now for the last 4 years since I moved away, well on the same estate I get her friends banging my door with demands to see her as the latest dramatic is impending sickness and during this year she has called the doctor for anything over 25 times, yes one was indesgestion, each time she fabricates a more serious illness, latest is blackouts when in fact its dizzyness. So she gets hospitalised overnight for attension. Even when I worked she was constanly phoneing my work with impending illnesses and hospitalisation. So now I work from home, or try to. I had my own bussiness which she took pride in destroying by going information to clients she fabricated which destroyed my reputation. Basicall Im at wits end, the doc has put me on prozac and still today she has decided to lay in bed after yet another night in hospital. Trying to be a good son i visted her in case she needed something and was greated with the impending death throng (this been for 10 years now) It feels like I cannot live the rest of my own life free, (im 53) and my life has been destroyed by her interference. Any advice please :-)

[richfo]

My mother used emotional blackmail on me when I was younger, she was expert at it. I was lucky I ran away at 15 (my dad died when I was 12), I managed to keep away and had very little to do with her for years. That broke the spell, and now we are fairly close again, but she has no intent with me now. SHE IS STILL ONE OF THE MOST SELFISH PEOPLE I HAVE EVER MET. You will never beat her as she has an unfair advantage, the only way is to keep your distance (if you can)

[Diablod666]

wow i'm really sorry, you are in an impossible predicament... the one time you dont come may be the time the worst actually happens... but i think your mother needs to hear a few home truths about what she has been doing to you the past few years. also you should be using some emotional blackmail back on her! tell her that she is your mother and should be doing what will make you the happiest, and not craving for attention herself! maybe you should even think about putting her in a home? good luck, and i hope for the best to you =D

[olderhippy]

Hi all, thanks for responses. This week I took a total stand and regained control of my life totally. May seem a rather bad thing to do to some mothers but I was left with no options. She had been refusing to take some meds the doc prescribed for her, resulting in her been admitted to hospital overnight and the demanding 24hr care since.

On Wed the Doc admitted her into 24 hr care for my respite care for up to 6 weeks. The worse thing and the last insult given to me was as only 2 people have keys to her flat she instructed the other person to remove all food and all bank details like books and cash to her house for safe keeping against theft (I have a Insured Safe on my premises) and made this other person (Cusin) the next of kin for the respite care.

So I have basically now disowned her totally and feel like at last the sun has come up on a new dawn, and stopped taking prozac and re gaining whats left of my life.

Even in the last few days my confidence is returning and at last Im getting out there to enjoy life once again without the stress of "Mother". People remake how good I am looking, my eyes are opened wide instead of looking half dead......

To be honest, I'm now looking forward to the future, meeting a good female and getting my life back to where I wanted it to go :-)