Such a thing as an uplifting Funeral?

[Drisgirl]

I was at my friends Dads funeral today and it was really 'lovely' and uplifting.
They had accepted that his life had run out.
His 3 children (my pal being one) made it back from Canada and they sat with their dad and were able to say all the things you would want to -he passed away peacefully once he had spoken with his beloved children.
My pal stood up and 'bravely' said a fantastic eulogy to her dad.At the end she said they had shared so many wonderful years with him so it was now Alans turn (son who died of a tumour at 28) and he was duly buried along with his son.
It was very moving but very gracious.
Thats the way I would want it to be -(without the Requim Mass that is -not a bloody clue whether to stand up sit down shake hands or what!!)
Death doesnt have to be morbid does it?

[dustypuss]

I had a friend who died of o tumor 28 he new he was a goner so we had his wake before he went . he said it was the best party he had every had . boy oh boy we did the best we could to flush that tumor out with whisky . didnt work but was good fun trying

[Drisgirl]

Now that was a way to go -if you know your luck has run out -what better way than having a 'good' time with your loved ones !!

Unlucky- but lucky really as you have 'good' memories -tough- but it was what he wanted -brave cookie !!!

[EngTeach]

I recently attended the funeral of the mom of one of my students. It was wonderful, if such a thing can be said! i t was so personal and moving. It gave me some closure after my mother's service, which was nice, but our long time minister was on vacation when mom passed and we had a fill-in minister, who was very nice, but did not know my mom or us. I think when one gets to say goodbye it can make a lot of differnce in the way the family/friends cope at the funeral.
Years ago I had a 10 year old student die and his funeral also was very uplifting. His mother was giving the other students and me comfort when she must have been shattered herself. Now that I think of it, both these families were very spiritual and strong in their faith. Perhaps that has something to do with it???

[Ice.Maiden]

Lovely, dustypuss! x

Hi there Dris! x

No funerals don't have to be morbid affairs, as such. I've been to two which were as bright as everyone could make it, and that was the wish of both deceased people.