Hi firewatch,
I think you should try posting in Body and Soul to get a wider range of people.
Also, I think it's worth considering going for proper counselling. Something pretty awful happened to me a few years ago and I didn't tell anyone about it. I thought I had dealt with it emotionally on my own, however, that wasn't really the case, I was just scared to face up to what had happened to me and as a result I was a bit mean to other people.
I took the decision to the decision to go for counselling in December 2006 and went every week for about 8 months. I can't even begin to describe how much it has benefited me, I have laid my demons to rest at last and I'm much happier.
p.s. what's corned beef curry? LOL