Advise please, girls and boys........

[banjosister]

I have been getting conflicting advice from friends.

Have recently split up from long term partner.

Do I go straight back out there and back into the saddle - so to speak.

I do I give myself time to heal?

BB xx

[unrulyjulie]

I'd say give yourself a little time to heal, otherwise you might just end up regretting things in the long run.

[888sally888]

I would say give yourself time to heal. Go out with friends but I would say avoid rushing into something heavy for a while to get back to being you again.

[mistys]

You should wait until you are ready. Don't rush into anything or you or the man could end up getting hurt.
Wait until your feeling yourself again, and then go looking for someone. Good luck - xx

[harryshaw]

enjoy the freedom

bb while it last

plenty more fish in the sea gad about so to speak enjoyyyyyyyyyyyy

x

[banjosister]

Cheers,

this is what i thought too.

its good to talk

thanx

BB xx

[kawa4]

Banjo sorry to here that just chill out for now and try to enjoy life for what it is. Just take your time cause true love will find ya. When you least expect it! x

[helliebobs]

banjo, I've been split up from my husband for just over a year and it's only recently I felt able to erm, get back in the saddle, partly because I've a child to think of, partly because I am wary of getting hurt again, and partly because I'm only just beginning to get my confidence back. Just take it easy, no need to rush anything.

[mistys]

You know we always here for ya BB - xxx

[pastafreak]

Hi BB.....I think it depends on how 'bruised' you are. If your relationship has been over for a while....even while you were still together....then you may be ready. Of course, it also depends on just what you want next time around . Sometimes it is good to take time to know yourself because you are not the same person you were BEFORE you were in this last relationship.

[Keroppe]

if u feel ready .. just go out and have fun!

[Ice.Maiden]

Thought from your other thread, your split'd been a while ago BB - sorry. I agree witht the others. Wait until you're really ready for the dating scene again. There's no rush, and you'll know when it feels right for you. best of luck hun - x

[888sally888]

Isn't it good that we all agree!! Good luck BB.

[banjosister]

Ahh pasta,

yup you've hit the nail on the head. I am for the first time on my own and i have to get used to my own company. It's weird but im liking it mostly.

I need some time to greive this one. sometimes I'm good sometimes im not.

I'm good just now.

Ahh mistys xx

BB xx

[booshman]

I would always, always follow your heart! I know this is pure cliche, but it is so for a reason!

If you're out one night and things go well with someone, don't be frightened of change, follow your heart!

If you're out and things don't go well, don't blame yourself and your past, these things happen...get over them!!

All things said, don't sleep around just because you think it'll help you get over/move on, this will always come back to haunt you!

Hope this helps and good luck...

[booshman]

Never forget to have fun! Fun IS life...

[pastafreak]

BB-I have been on my own now for several years after being married for 23.....and at first I was terrified as I had not really been in my own company. Now I can say that it is the best thing to have to me!! xx

[pastafreak]

'to have happen to me'.................duh!

[banjosister]

thanx so much for your opinions.

I know it will good for me to spend some time on my own. I have always dependants and it feels good to be able to please myself.

I just need to find out about all the things that please me.

Nite all

BB xx