i need help

[bubble251]

Ok. I've known this guy for 5 years now. We've always only been friends..... until last year. I started to like him, but , I kept on thinking, "I dont like him, he's just a really good friend, I dont like him, he just a really good friends." But I couldn't fight feeling that I had for him. I've never felt that feeling before. It was like somthing had touched my heart, and i only want to see him, talk to him, and be with him. So I just accepted it and kept it to my self. A year later I went out with my first boy friend, I really did care for him but not as much as i cared for my other friend. But I knew I didn't care for my boy friend as much as I did for my best friend. So I told him I we could be together any more but we could still be friends. Now this year is my third year loving him and yesterday we got into an arguement and he said he doesn't ever want to talk to me or see me again, and i agreed. Now I don't know what to tell him because I regret telling the one I love that I never want to see or speak to him again. plz help me. WUT CAN I DO!!!!!!!!!

[PaulB]

How old are you bubble?

[bubble251]

I'm 15

[bubble251]

PLZZZZ HELP ME. I CAN'T STAND FIGHTING WITH HIM. I KNOW. YOU GUYS MIGHT BE THINKING THAT I DONT KNOW WUT LOVE IS, BUT, I CANT STAND BEING A DAY WITH OUT HIM, WHEN I SEE HIM I CANT SPEAK, WHEN I TALK TO HIM EVERY THING ELSE AROUND ME STOPS AND ITS JUST ME AND HIM, WHEN I THINK ABOUT HIM I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM, WHEN HIS NAME IS SAID I SHIVER, WHEN HE TOUCHES ME A SHIVER GOES DOWN MY SPINE, WHEN I LOOK INTO HIS EYES I DONT WANT TO LEAVE HIM, WHEN IM WITH HIM I KNOW IM SAFE. I COULD GO ON FOREVER BUT I WON'T. THE POINT IS THAT I LOVE HIM AND I KNOW IT. PLZ HELP ME. (ME AND MY EX BOY FRIEND ARE STILL FRIENDS BY THE WAY.... BUT MY EX BOY FRIEND IS MY BEST FRIENDS REALLY GOOD FRIEND)!!!!!!!

[auro]

Hi bubble What was the argument with your 5 year friend about? Try talking to your friend who you obviously has great feelingsfor. Try and leave your Ex out of this - as what has happened is foremostly about you and your friend - and your feelings towards him. Age does not matter - if that is how you feel then nothing changes that - Follow what your heart / insides are telling you - Good luck

[BobbyLove01]

I think you should erite him a letter and explain everything to him about your love and how much even as a friend you really like to have him in yur life as your best friend. With a letter you can really say what you mean and think about it better before you would if you said this to him face to face. Plus also bubble, he can re-read the letter on his own as many times as he likes and that should relax him better for when you next meet. In cases like this with friends letters are always the best option. BUT REMEMBER WRITE DOWN EVERTHING AND BE HONEST WITH HIM OR YOU WILL END BACK WHERE YOU ARE NOW! Good luck bubble Bobby P.S I hope this made sense

[bubble251]

The reason for the arguement was because of a stupid rumor. The rumor was that I told everyone that he is in love with the rudest girl in the school and that they where dating. But of course I would never do that. I hope every thing turns out ok. Thank you for all your advise but I'm going to wait to hear what other people say and combinded all of your advise. Thank you for helping me get out of this knott!!!!!

[ICEMANSAV]

I agree with the letter writing idea, it is more personal than a text message and you can express your feelings better. Tell him how you have felt and that was eating you up inside, all lads like to feel desired its part of our genes. Tell him in the letter the rumour is not true and that his feelings are more important to you than he thinks. Summat like that but in girl talk, they seem to do that stuff better anyway. Good luck

[pixiewize]

hey bubble, i think that a letter is a good idea too, but make sure that you can trust him to respect you enough not to pass it around. There is nothing worse than having your heart treated as school gossip. Im sure that if you are as close as it seems you are you will have nothing to worry about, its just as i was reading the advise of the other answerbankers i felt a bit weary of the whole thing. Perhaps write a letter for yourself, or just reading back everything you have said on here. Reminding yourself of how passionate you are about him will give you the extra bit of confidence you need to tell him, and i do think that you should. I am in university now, but when i was younger i felt the same way about one of my friends and i never told him. He got a girlfriend when we were about 16 and he is still with her. I could never tell him how i felt now as the time has passed, but every time i see him i feel physically sick with symtoms like those you described earlier. I think that i will always feel like this and im fine with that now. as i feel that we are in different places in our lives. If i could go back in time i would tell him though, i dont have many regrets in my life as i am still young but not telling the boy that i believe to be my first love that he was indeed that is my biggest regret.

[pixiewize]

...continued from above they wouldnt let me say it all in one post... Way up your options, if you are already going through a rocky part in your friendship, do you want to add more tension? Maybe it would be best to wait untill things cool down and you can both sit down and talk about it without other hot-headed issues coming into it. If you dont think that that time will come for a while and you really are losing his friendship then it might be a good time to tell him everything, before its too late and you dont get a second chance. If he is as good a friend as he seems then he will already love you as that and i dont see how anyone could react badly to being told that someone they love feels they way you do about him. I really hope i have helped you sweetie, and not confused you further. Im sorry i have gone on for a bit but its the big sis in me (cant help it) best of luck, i hope life turns out good for you hunny x

[bubble251]

Thank You for all your help, it helped a lott. I already wrote him a letter, it will probably bore you but I'll tell you any ways. Here it goes. " Dear ????????, I know other people told a lott of things that really hurt you, but you know i would never say stuuf like that. Your my best friend and you always will be, don't believe wut other people say, you know I would never wanna hurt you or lie to you. But, there is one thing I've been keeping from you for a long time....._________, I love you. And I know you always will. I know you think that I said that but I didn't. __________ I really love you. PLZZZ talk to me. write me back. (my name) Wut do you think. Can you plzz tell me wut you think.

[pixiewize]

bubble, i think that anything you write would be perfect just talk from our heart. i admire you for doing this hunny, you are very brave and i hope you get everything that you deserve. it could be a good idea to show him this website and what you have said on here, because i think that you have worded best when you were talking to people detatched from your life. treat him the same way dont assume that he already knows things, he may not. Tell him everything.

[bubble251]

Thank you all for your help. It really was good advice. I told him how I feel and it turns out he likes... loves me to. Im so happy, Thank you PIXIE for being there for me. You really helped me and made sense. But I have a nother small problem.You can see it under THIS REALLY IS HARD . Ok well thanks. luv ya all. Peace Out

 

[pixiewize]

thats ok bubble, im so pleased everything has worked out well for you. i cant seem to find any other question posted by you but i hope its not a major problem. you deserve to be happy after all that stressing. xxx

[bubble252]

Ok sry. I forgot my password so i had to get a new name. Pixie.. I have a new problem... its titled "Hes mine" Please Help me. You gave me really good advice with this and i need help with this. Thank you. Luv ya

Bubble252