Dilemna or not???

[Drisgirl]

Think hard !
H has had to bring his mucker up the road tonight.
His cousin was killed in an accident at 8 last night.She happened to be married to his cousin from another side of the family and he is critical.The driver was his mate and he had his leg amputated at the scene and is critical.
This is a major story up here.
There is a an 8 yr old child and a daugher who is due to give birth -I knew/know them both.

The driver had been drinking and he was tipped off -he saw the police following alegedly and panicked and whatever happened he ended up rammed into a tree-she was not buckled in the back and the rest is history.

Now the dilemna is if you have had a wee bit to drink would you go in the car knowing the driver had a drink ?

Would you have a smidgeon of guilt grassing the driver if you knew the the potential outcome?

I only ask -I know what I think -since H came back up the road with his mucker we have had calls galore about this from his work from my family and his mucker and his family (even before he was up the road my phone was red hot) -we are still raw but we can now empathise -BUT crucially to what degree????

[Ice.Maiden]

Thank goodness for that, knobby! I've done similar - but once the car I was in'd pulled up (after my shouting!!), I got out and walked! No way would i ever travel with a person who'd had a few.

[Drisgirl]

NO DOT -it was his muckers cousins and one of his best mates who were in the vehicle- but H had to take him up the road and is in his kip now cos he is shattered and has to leave at 4 in the morning to start his shift again- in Yorkshire..He was doing a colleague a good turn at his companies behest thats all,I spoke with their boss tonnight and he has asked for a card and flowers from the company to go to my husbands collegue as they realise it has been a tremendous shock he could barely speak even when i spoke with him early afternoon -shock is a painful thing.


However I knew them to nod ot but I feel for the wee onews ledt behind.

[banned-dot]

Were there 3 people in the car then if she was in the back? She must have been unaware of the danger if she hadn't [put her belt on, these tange rovers lull you into a false sense of safety i guess, as big as they are.

[banned-dot]

You're right there, and someone's gotta tell those children that their mum's not coming back fromt her night out!! They will be traumatised by that, there are more consequences than you think, when mine were small we never went out to the pub for a drink and left them with anyone, it's just something we would never have done, if you don;t put yourself in that position you don't have to live to regret it i always felt. It's very very sad and yet avoidable in many mnay different ways

[Drisgirl]

A lot of there but for the grace of cos I did it in my 20's and thought nothing of it -NOW -I wont drive at all until its 12hours since my last glass of wine !!! I am paranoid I have to say tho!

Yip Dot she was unsttapped in the back and fom all accounts she went flying out and posssibly took A.N Other wiht her -prob is it happened at 8.30 last night but no-one was told until 10am this morning -purely because they are crtiitical or dead. the Range Rover want properly registered i darseay !!

What a fcuk up -I am immune in a way cos I dont have symapthy with people who not only take their loves into their own hands but potentiallty others -im hardened to it -they took the consequences so hell mend them IMO.

Its the wee bairns left behind and also the ripple effect -its even affecting my life -I am hurt but they took their chance they lost thank fcuk it wast a random coming in the other direction.

I wanted to really know how you woud feel being the person who had dobbed them in o BTW the Ploce were behind them -I dont know if that as a good toing in those cicrumstances -surely a radio to the Blair -bearest town for an officer to flag then down would b suffice

[Ice.Maiden]

These people always leave others behind to suffer the pain of their loss, dris. It's totally unfair to run risks, but I see where you're coming from.
I once drank at least a dozen brandies, and thought I could drive home. Did OK until i came to a busy roundabout, and then panic set in. I had to pull over in the end, and I fell to sleep for an hour! That taught me never to drink and drive again. never have, and I refuse to let those I know do it.

[banned-dot]

eh?? if they were so rat arsed at 8.30 in the evening where the heck had they been drinking to get that bad and why weren't they at home with their lids??? the police should not feel guilty then cos they sound like they were irresponsible with themsdel;ves and careless with their kids future. I don;t know how you dob someone in for drink driving i didn;t think the police acted on tip offs like that but in this case the daft actions of a drunk have caused this, how very very stupid and tragic. the person who supposedly tang the police may have saved innocent peoples lives anyway

[banned-dot]

I meant kids not lids, i'm tired , not intoxicated lol

[Drisgirl]

IYip agree Dot -no winner in tnis situ -lose/lose all the way !!!

Tough time cos H is away back tomorrow but my house can be their haven .