Turning 30.....

[roosi]

I am away to turn 30 at the beginning of next yr and all my life I have said that age was just a number, and c'est la vie, and que sera, sera and "it won't bother me - what you on about" it's only an age, something we can't control, and might as well just get on with it......But recently I have been seriously evaluating my life. Asking myself if I have mde the right choices up till now, and asking myself what more I should have done/be doing. I am in a really happy 10yr plus relationship with a guy whom I love to pieces, so am naturally wondering why I am thinking this way. Has anyone else felt like this? If so, why is it right now these feeling have started to occur? They are actually making me quite uneasy at times as I am normally such a laid back "black and white" type of person.....

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[monty0703]

Spooky! I thought you were me there!! I felt exactly the same as you when I turned 30 a couple of years ago. I also evaluated my relationship, where I was in life etc. I think the most unsettling thing for me was that I suddenly thought about children - I always thought I didn't want any but now I'm thinking, 'well, maybe..'.

[roosi]

Me aswell, although we have always spoke about having children, both being too career minded up till now to really think about them seriously. Am finding myself really wanting family now too.....

Strange eh?!

[monty0703]

sorry I meant to continue. I still think like that and sometimes I get a bit down as things haven't turned out how I thought. If you'd said to me 10 years ago what I would be doing now I wouldn't have believed it! Still, you live and learn and I've learned a lot through my choices and regrets. What worries me though is if I'm like this now...what will I be like in 10 years!! I guess my advice is not to dwell on things and just go with the flow!

[roosi]

Yeah your right, but always one to try and make the best possible choices about everything and now thinking well have I? Un-nerving to say the least!!!!


I am not getting down, just really methodical about the whole thing, and wondering about what it would be like to live somewhere else, having family, changing jobs and all that jazz. Who knows eh!!! :O)

[monty0703]

I applied for a job 200 miles from where I live as it's the perfect job for me. Unfortunately it's only temporary but I applied anyway. Don't know what I'll do if I get asked for an interview! I look at my friends around me who seem a lot more settled and I must admit to feeling a bit jealous at times. You're right it is unnerving especially as time flies by so bloody quickly!!

[Hermia]

Turning 30 is really horrible. I was very mixed-up and down about it for several months. I then mentioned how I felt to my friends and colleagues and they all start nodding and saying they had all felt exactly the same and that turning 30 was worse than turning 40!

I think there is an idea that you are grown up in your 30s and have all your life settled. I've definitely noticed that people expect you to conform to certain forms of behaviour more in your 30s.

It's totally natural that this event should make you evaluate your life and that isn't necessarily a bad thing.

My boss (who is 15 years older than me) gave me some great advice. He said he got depressed at 30 'cause his friends were all either meeting the one or racing up the career ladder. He said he really started to feel comfortable with his life in his late 30s and by that time many of the same friends were either divorcing or suffering career burnout!

[andy-hughes]

I didn't enjoy being thirty at all - it felt like a real milestone. I didn;t care about being forty, and cared even less about being fifty.

At fifty-three, i can honestly say that I wish my career and personal life had gone other ways, but the choices i made were the right ones at the time - some by luck, some by judgement, and as Oscar Wilde said "The trouble with youth is it's wasted on the young."

I don;t regret, and I only look back at the good parts, and see my liffe as an education. I know i will never be the Johnny Depp that I envy so completely, but my ability to hold witty and insightful conversation is well above average, and i content myself with that.

I have a lovely wife, three wonderful duaghters, and two grandchildren, all well and healthy. I have a job, a hobby that pays money, no serious physical defects, and I often feel I am seriously lucky with how my life has turned out.

You will look back on this time, and put it in perspective - so why not try a bit of that now?

Be happy.

[4getmenot]

I dont think age is just a number but also wont let my 30th bother me next month. I often get to my birthday and forget how old I am going to be

[mirela]

i will be 30 in two month time, im thinking lots about evaluating my past life as well, sadly realised i havnt got any of those things i have been looking for years.

maybe a marriage for 30th birthday present?haha

[Booldawg]

early-mid 30s was great! Me and alot of of my friends who got married too early were freshly separated and going out and about socialising again - this time with more money and confidence we had when we were teenagers. There were also alot of women in the same boat and its not like we had to sneak up the stairs at our mum and dads!

Fortunately I wasnt a father by then so didnt have to pay maintainence or spend saturday afternoons entertaining kids at McDonalds on the terms and conditions of some bitter ex-wife.

[Eve]

I'm in the last 6 months of my 30th and it's not bothered me as yet.

My former boss always said (when my friend turned 30) that the 30's are the best years of your life and I'm kinda looking forward to what that brings me.

I'm more money than I ever was, really made something of my career and have the prospect of starting a family and a whole new phase of my life to look forward to :)