Is he only after 1 thing?...

[blondie83]

I had a fiend request on facebook, i didnt know him so i messaged him asnd asked who he was, turned out we went school together and he remembers me. Anyways, we got chatting and he met me in my lunch break the other day for a drink, we got on well and i really like him. I havn't seen him since (he is working nights) but he is always txting me, but the messages are getting more and more dirty.....I have noticed a message on his facebook page from a friend of his, to him, saying 'I havn't got laid off this site yet mate!'' which makes me wonder if he is only 'seeing''/txt me to get 'laid'. He says he likes me and always has, even at school but i'm not sure...should i ask him when i meet him next, or just let it go and enjoy it whilst it lasts? He could be completely genuine, but he is really really hot and it makes me wonder why on earth he would fancy me?.... Any advice appreciated!? x

[johnny.5]

why not go for it ? maybe he is only after sex but so what if you keep this in mind and maybe enjoy it what have you got to lose ?

[ivanerection]

fiend?

[ivanerection]

he is deffo after sex if he is a fiend.

[blondie83]

sorry my spellings awful, i meant friend! lol

[DrFilth]

that would make him a sex fiend

[blondebimbo1]

No matter how hot he is dont put yourself down. He could be genuine & just got a few stupid mates! My boyf has alot - believe me ha!
Just see how it goes and enjoy! If after a while you still have your doubts have it out with him x

[banjobabe]

Hey blondie,

why dont you ask him?

would you be happy with just meetin up for sex or would you want more?

Is there any reason why you don't trust him.

sorry I didn't answer the question but just asked more lol

Bb xx

[ChuckFickens]

I have noticed a message on his facebook page from a friend of his, to him, saying 'I havn't got laid off this site yet mate!''

So it wasn't actually him that said it, it was a friend that said it to him, so why would you think this guy is only after sex, he can't control the messages that others send to him.

Go for it, as johnny.5 said what have you got to lose

[andrea81]

I think that most relationships start in this way (fancying a bit of each other), have you thought about him sexually? If so, then I would take that as a compliment!

So my advice is give him a chance! ;0)

[blondie83]

Theres no real reason for me to question him, i am just very wary of men in general. Im paranoid cos i saw that message on his page, also, we've only met once but he's sending me really dirty txt messages.....and he also sent a message to a girl on F-B saying 'how is your sexy self then?' (this was before he was messaging me) Just makes me wonder if he's txting others aswell. I dont just wasn a f*** buddy, i want a relationship.
Maybe i'm just being paranoid, but i honestly feel like he's too hot to fancy me!

[Velvetee]

Well it really depends on what you want Blondie. If you are only after friendship, then you need to make this clear to him. If you dislike receiving his lewd messages, then you must also tell him, otherwise, in a way, it's encouraging him.

If you are happy to have a casual relationship with him, then that's fine too, but you both need to be clear on where you stand. It does sound to me, like he's a Facebook chancer, of which there are many and maybe he does have some kind of bet with his friends, as to who can score the most.

Just be honest and ask him what he's after. Bare in mind, lots of men do lie to get what they want.

[ChuckFickens]

Facebook stalker alert!!

I wouldn't think twice about sending my female friends on facebook a message saying something like "hows your sexy self" and would expect it to be taken in the harmless slightly flirty way it was intended. doesn't make him a sex mad monster.

And don't put yourself down, nobody is too good for anyone

[blondie83]

Well, i asked him!!! (Via txt) I just said is that what your after, and he said if he wanted sex, he could go out and get it. so i guess i should just let and go and see what happens. He could be genuine, he may not. we shall see!

[Le Chat]

Hi blondie,
The way I see it, is that if he wanted to see you again or 'go out' with you, he would have made an arrangement to do just that. He managed to see meet up with you initially, so what's stopping him now. Sending flirty texts, with no face-to-face back up plan seems childish and somewhat arrogant to me. I know quite a few young guys where I worked used to do this and it never really led anywhere. If I were you and I wanted to get this to the next level, I would stop replying to his texts and then see how serious he really was about dating me!

[unhappychick]

Hey Blondie, well look at it like this, he hasent got sex off you yet and is still around, so its you hes interested in, yes of course he obviously wants sex with you, but I would take it as a compliment! Just dont give in and do it easily, if he likes and respects you enough, he will wait! -x-

[blondie83]

Well just to update you.
I asked him on friday. I have barely heard from him since. 1 txt yesterday and that is it since Fri. I think that answers my question don't you!?!!!
Thanks for all your answers xx