noisy bedroom habbits upstairs

[paulsmummy]

i live in flats, got two very young children, 1 & 3, they both now sleep through the night, which is a godsend ive waited 3 years for a decent sleep at night, my question is this.....am i being unreasonable, the bloke that lives above me has a very active sex life, every other night he's at it...... the bed squeeks, he's woman squeeks, wails, and screams, i can hear everything, i want to scream sometimes, is this unreasonable, its always at 3am till about 6am its doing my head in........

[paulsmummy]

i have reported it before to council, as asking him did nothing to change it, and he was sent a letter and we were asked to keep a diary for 3 weeks, he stopped and it was bliss, so we had nothing to report, now 6 days ago our time ran out for it and i guess they closed the case, only its like he knows because friday, sunday,tuesday and thursday he's been at it again, think he's on viagra or something, they take forever! now should i confront him again! and risk a mouthfull, or go back to council well environmental health actually, im worried about bad feeling obviously, because u keep yourself to yourself usually in council flats, or re-report it ........yes it completely confidential but it dont take a rocket scientist to work out who's telling tales, this is how i feel.....like im telling tales...lol
but its very distressing, especially when 3 year old asks me mummy what's that noise..... and lack of sleep is taking its toll.......... not like i can go back to bed...... have nursery runs through term time...
i have ill health at the moment aswell..... im getting quite fed up.....any advice appreciated thanks

[hanhol]

is there other neighbours joined on and have the same problem as you? could you all go and speak to the beast together?
is he so unreasonable that he wouldnt meet you half way?
like could you suggest he keeps the bedroom frolicks to the weekend?
god help you with the kids only just sleeping through the night and now you are faced with this...
i so sympathise!
have you tried ear plugs?

[paulsmummy]

were all joined, but to his left theres a flat and they are seperated a really big gap, to his right is a gas electric cupboard, so its just us, below, i have tried earplugs, and they work, but they also stop me hearing my children if they cry in the night or get up for a wander...so my only choice is to get up make a drink and sit it out...he wont compromise, he's had a warning letter, from the council and he stopped but its like he knew how long he had until it was okay start again...

[sleepy1]

wow 3 till 6 he last a long time ....it must be awful for you .nothing worse than being woke up ...tell him to have a cold shower

[monty0703]

I had a noisy neighbours (but music and/or shouting) and we just kept on and on at the council. We also phoned the police. Excessive noise is an anti-social problem no matter what the source!

[Eve]

I can sympathise, we have a neighbour who likes to play his dance music very very loud right next to the bedroom so much so the room shakes sometimes.

We had a chat with him and he is a lot better now, he sees 10.30pm as a reasonable time to turn it down which only affects me now if I go to bed early.

We can still hear it a room away so just turn the TV up to compensate.

We maybe ignore it more than we should, he had it on loud and sounded like he was having a party which woke me up at 5am the other morning so I ended up just getting up. I figured as a one off I'd ignore it.

Could you have a chat with him, maybe pressing it affects your young children may be more persuasive?

[paulsmummy]

weve already approached him, he apologises very nicely, and then seems to shut the door, and says tough luck basically, he wont stop, it is affecting my children...

lol... raggy i aint joining in, i just want to sleep at that hour..lol

think im just going to have to phone the council again, the thing is they give u a diary, which is all well and good, but they warn him too, so he stops, then theres nothing to record, then time runs out, we havent filled out any forms, and then he starts again, its his bed mainly the thing sounds broken, i wanna leave a can of wd40 up by the door...lol but joking aside, its happening more often than not...
sometime ago when we reported it first time he was going non stop from 3am to 7.30am... then i spose sleeping, only he never seems to sleep... ive seen him out next morning,, i just dont know how he does it...unless its drugs...

[sleepy1]

why dont he fix the bed ..nothing more off putting when your at it and the bed bangs ...he must enjoy you lot hearing him ...how old is he ?

[squarebear]

You could always try learning how to play the bagpipes at 12am? That should please him.

[paulsmummy]

its not that its banging, it like the springs are like eeee aaaaw eee aaaw...but faster, hes a young guy, bout 25.... ive tried banging on walls, but its like theyre too hard to hear it, i cant put telly on or shout shut the f.up... my one year olds cots in my room....

got no choice really venting my spleen at him wont do no good, just got to go to council...ill go this afternoon... its open 2 till 4 its a local housing office...

[funnygirl]

I know 3 to 7.30am!!!

Boy he must be some stallion!!!!