Is it ok to use 'gay' on tv, meaning weak or effeminate? Clarkston did it kinda on Top Gear talking about 'a car for queers' or suchlike. Last night I watched some poker and a guy instead of betting big, just put in a minimum bet, which the commentator called 'such a gay raise'. I'll be surprised if he gets away with it. It's very much common parlance but it's not acceptable yet, is it?