posting about how bad men are

[Dr-Legend]

Are users really that interested or fixated even on the intimate workings of certain users relationships with men ?
Do users believe all they read here ?
If they do does that make them smart or less than smart ?

Is your life an open book to be thumbed through by faceless people online or do you maintain a degree of privacy ?

[Dr-Legend]

And some will be some
set on causing trouble
as is mans need

[cazzz1975]

of course, such is life

you have to learn to filter the crap....

[Drisgirl]

Sorry Buzz-that must seem as I was ignoring you but I wasnt -I take your points on boar but in balance and from waht i've experienced on here in the last 4 yrs I would agree with cazzz's take on it which is what I was trying to say initially.

I know there are oftem underlyimng problems but fundalentally if someone is a raging alkie and wife neater who posts on here as a decent person who has enough then the best advice without having the whole truth to hand would be to advice him to leave her -see where i'm coming from -sometimes you are doing the posters partner a favour in a cack handed way.

Anyway I do try to keep out those posts as I am not one to rationally give out advice however its blatantly transparent when someone is in genuine distress-it would be very difficult to maintain the thread if you were a duper and those are the ones where I try to offer solace and comfort and hopefully a few words of wisdom from past experience -in what may be their darkest hour.

[BuzzNitemare]

Fair enough cazz i can see your point I still don't think that anybody on here is qualified to make judgements about the relationships of those they have never met. You can't say 'my husband had an affair so I know what you should do ' because there will be a world of differences between the2 situations. To a person who is vulnerable or has lost perspective there is a huge difference between reading ' if you are unhappy, then maybe you need to think about leaving her' compared to ' leave the *****''. You or I might only look for advice in general terms, others might take it as gospel.

[cazzz1975]

I think when people are looking for advice they are more likely to filter the blunt one liners. The poster is also aware that the respondants have no knowledge other than what has been posted to go on.

so they are unlikely to take lifechanging advice based on very little information. leaving someone can be a very long process for some people, even though they have been advised by friends and family on numerous occasions.

its highly unlikely they will act upon a blunt comment made by someone who knows a limited amount about the situation.

[BuzzNitemare]

I do know people that are going through lenghty break ups, cazz - one of my relatives recently announced she will be leaving her husband at the beginning of next year!!
While I do appreciate what your saying I still don't think I would feel comfortable asking for or offering advice from/ to strangers. i guess I'm with Drisgirl in that I'll just stay out of posts of thiat kind and simply wallow in the shallow fun that seems to be Chatterbank. : ~ )