Bite the bullet!

[andrea81]

Just requested to add a friend on Facebook that I haven't spoken to for years due to a bit of a miss understanding! (For want of a better word!)

I now have butterflies wondering if the rift will mean that she wont add me!

Gosh, what am I like eh? Feel like I'm back in school!

:0{

[4getmenot]

Anyone I dont speak to now there is a reason for that and not just petty reasons they have really hurt me, so I would never do it, and thats not being stubborn they had enough chances. You've got guts

[Psychick]

I must admit, Ive recently added someone from school who I never got on with and I did take a few days. ok a week lol, to add her because I wasnt sure whether to accept her request or not. But the past is the past.

If she chooses not to accept then it will just show you was the better person at the end of the day :)

[andrea81]

I know, I'm starting to regret now! I think it was a stupid rift that should never have happened.....

Basically, she was moving to Australia for a year and was having a night out for a party, but my problem was I had a few weeks erlier given birth to my son by C-section and wasn't able to drive! My hubby/then fiance (who was in Army) was away and I had no mean of going, plus having a newborn!

So my alternative was to miss the party and have my dad to drive me to see her the next day (as I wasn't allowed to drive because of c-section)! This wasn't good enough and thus the rift!

Her sis gave me a mouthful in my workplace one day.. and that seems to have been that! she's back now, and I do think that it's been long enough!

I do wish she had understood my predicament!

[Psychick]

I have to be honest, that being the case, I certainly hope she has grown up because that was childish pettiness! I personally dont think I would have bothered with her lol

[~spaced~]

seems like she wasnt a true friend in the first place. Most people know that having a c-section means very little movement for 6 weeks, plus having the new stress of a newborn doesnt help.

She should have seen that the op and you having a baby was much more important, and as a friend she should have undertstood that.

Fcuk her</b< is what I say. When she adds you as a friend (if she does) then just remove and completely block her. She is not a true friend

I wouldnt even lose sleep over it, so im unsure to why you are worrying so much?!?

[4getmenot]

Well after that I wouldnt have been the one to find her.

[andrea81]

I know, but I worry about things like this! Oh dear, we'll see!

[~spaced~]

stop worrying! There are more important and less trivial things in life to worry about, like family, health etc etc

Not some just woman who has to ask her sister to fight her battles. Dont give it another thought. Remove and black her.

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[funnygirl]

It is good to let bygones be bygones.

Do explain why you let her down and surely she must forgive you.

Life is too short and you never know you could turn out to be the best of friends in the end!!

If she chooses to ignore you, then it is her lost!!

[4getmenot]

I wouldnt explain, if you really want to be friends with this woman then just see if she replies explaining will just bring it all up again

[bensmum]

Hi Andrea - you are obviously a better sort of friend than she ever was. I would feel inclined to say ...k you (sorry - age has its benefits, I'm not bothered about my language any more).
However I do know what you mean - sometimes you need to sort out a particular chapter in your life and you are making the first move. If she doesn't respond you can feel that you are the bigger person and she is still acting the child. You will have lost nothing.

[Robgue]

She has 2 choices really. You haven't lost anything by what you've done, you can only gain. Seems to me your the real friend and if she's willing to lose that then thats her loss. Good luck however it pans out.

[Octavius]

Well it shows you are above petty squabbles and have moved on in life.

If she doesn�t accept you as a friend, then I would say it is no real loss.

The chances are she will �accept� but she won�t communicate with you, it�s a numbers thing you see. FB etc are cyber-based popularity contests.

[andrea81]

Thing is, we were friends all the way through secondary school and stayed friends when we wen't our separate ways in Uni. But after 4 years of not talking, she's always on my mind and I feel sad that things got like this!

I would like the opportunity to share things with her, such as my children and getting married and talk to her about her travels and what she's been up to!

I guess seeing her FB profile on my other friends lists, just reminds me that things need to be put right!

[Octavius]

Well then if she accepts you, you can drop a line to fill in the gaps and see how things are. Lets hope she has grown up in the meantime!